The Primal Scene and Symbol Formation: Why war and the electronically targeted individual

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Children playing war-games

The following writing considers the theory of Dietmut Niedecken and her psychoanalytic work exploring the primal scene and symbol formation.

Interpreting the Psychic Material

Alfred Lorenzer thinks that the traumatic experience consists of an “intolerable situation” that is available in phantasy being realized (1965, p. 693). If we consider what is being suggested is an “intolerable situation” represented in the fabric of the psyche that is generally dissolved in the fabric and only brought to bear when it is activated by a traumatic irruption, we can then make a connection with its connection to psychosis.

In considering potentially traumatic influences in early childhood, the primal scene was in focus in early psychoanalytic writings. The child is subjected to such an experience, to excitations that are overwhelming and therefore may have a traumatic impact. Freud thought the traumatic event of the primal scene was due to the child’s witnessing the parents’ act of intercourse. But some psychoanalysts believe the “primal scene” isn’t so much connected to witnessing the parents’ act of sexual intercourse as much as it is connected to how the parents treat one another in response to each other’s needs (e.g., in a loving and respectful way or in violent altercation and aggression). When aggressive arguments and physical fights are witnessed by the child, the child may experience traumatic side effects to the excitations that create cortical arousal and these excitations may be overwhelming for the child to process, and as a result, the child may have a hard time processing the event. This is most certainly connected with dissociative states and this becomes the difference between knowing and not knowing the trauma. Melanie Klein takes early phantasy formations as the “combined parent figure” and this combined parent figure is a particularly anxiety-inducing, fusional-destructive representation from the early stages of the Oedipus complex. The primal scene phantasy comes into being on the basis of projections of fear of abandonment, envy, and hatred that the child feels with regard to the parents’ sexual relationship from which he is excluded. Laplanche (2004) considered the primal scene the product of both the result of an event and a phantasy as the child works out the enigmatic message proceeding from the adults. In addition, according to Laplanche the phantasy is not arbitrary but an outcome of the child’s cultural environment which makes available to him for the translation of the enigmatic message of the primal scene some “general cultural . . . narrative schemata” (2004, P.908) These serve the binding and symbolization of the traumatizing enigmatic messages.

Many psychoanalysts have asked the question, “Why war?” And the answer to that question is, “War is how some children work out the enigmatic message of the primal scene (Mitzlaff and Niedecken, 2013, p. 87).” We see these enigmatic messages being played out all the time in child’s play when children will come together and play war-games. A very common game played when I was little was “Cops and Robbers.” In the war-games played by young children (mostly boys), one can observe the obvious encoding of the actions that make up the primal scene into male-sexual and female-sexual stereotypes, and the war scene itself is made up of the props and objects the child recognizes from television and computer games. As part of the primal scene symbolization what is acted out in the child’s game of war is a phallic-aggressive attack. Thus, the enigmatic message of the primal scene is in play here. In the journal paper The Primal Scene and Symbol Formation, Deitmut Niedecken writes:

“We can postulate that the children playing war have already developed a primal scene phantasy in which they assume the place of witnesses of excited events taking place between the parents. In playing, they are concerned now with further translating for themselves the enigmatic message of the primal scene. They are falling back on the metaphor of the war game, which operates as a cultural “translation aid (Laplanche, 2004, p. 908)”

Thus, there is a structure-forming aspect of the primal scene phantasy. Britton develops a concept called “The missing link” which positions a third person within the triangular space of the primal scene. This triangular space is bound by three persons of the Oedipal situation and all their potential relationships. This structure-forming space includes the possibility of being a participant in a relationship and observed by a third person as well as being an observer of a relationship between two people (Britton, 1989, p. 85).

Niedecken has shown when a child works out the exclusion from the primal scene the possibility of the “I think” position is made available and the protagonists of the primal scene are represented in grammar as “subject” and “object” and the relationship between them is governed by the predicate “Father-Subject has a Mother-Object.” I believe her German translates into a possessive form, as in “Father-Subject possess a Mama-Object.” That is, the father possesses the mother and the child is excluded from the sexual relationship.

If we consider it in this way, the development of verbal-discursive thinking is underpinned by an extremely violent, in fact, murderous phantasy and it is not surprising that children convey a perpetrator-victim relationship in their play. In this context, it is easily understood how the instrumentally dissecting external view proceeds from discursive language and allows a sadistic control over what is thought. This sadistic control and extremely violent and murderous discursive thinking underlie the machinery used during the Holocaust and can provide the reason for the sweeping tide of our planet’s self-destruction (Horkheimer and Adorno, 1973).

It is at this point in the paper Niedecken presents the possibility that exclusion from the primal scene may not be the only way a child interprets and experiences the primal scene. There is another possible way the child works through the experience as an inclusive member of the trio. She offers an example in music theory in which “two human voices can sing a love duet while an instrumental part accompanies it and adopts its own position towards it that is heard not as excluded by as belonging; in a fugue, two voices can join each other in a stretto, while a counterpoint is interwoven in it so that the three parts combine to produce an interwoven whole. Such forms of experience suggest to Niedecken that the primal scene experience must also be conceivable as a terzet, and she began to wonder where she could find such a form of the “primal scene as terzet (Niedecken, 2016).”

Niedecken offered two clinical examples of how children may experience the primal scene not as excluded but as included. She writes,

“In being together sexually, the parents do not have to exclude the child from their phantasies; instead, she can latently appear in them as its extremely welcome product, perhaps also as an oedipally desired participant; and the child can experience with them the excitation of the scene herself until the moment when she makes her own entrance and makes herself heard — as a counterpoint that is woven into the stretto of the fugue theme (Niedecken, 2016).”

It is important to note that this inclusion is in no way perverted, but rather demonstrates the healthy love between the two parents and towards the offspring him/herself. That is, the inclusion of a child in the primal scene is based on healthy reciprocity within the relationship, a relationship filled with respect, love, and caring that is consistently and actively demonstrated throughout.

With regard to the material that can be interpreted and analyzed in the phenomenon of electronic target assaults in the experience of the targeted individual, we can read its terzetto. We can read the unconscious unanalyzed fantasy of a child’s exclusion from the primal scene and the Father-Subject’s phallic aggressive attacks against his Oedipal Objects. In object relations theory we interpret the aggressor’s message as the phallic and potent father figure commanding and ordering his subjects/objects of his relational world.

It is my opinion, there is a tremendous lack of understanding in the research literature with regard to the prevalence of sadism in the world of non-incarcerated adults today, and how individual-specific sadistic traits contribute to the invisible crime of electronic targeting. It is also my opinion this phenomenon belongs to a subculture. A subculture interested in the “theatre of cruelty” in acting out a fantasy of control. It also utilizes the world of hi-tech electronic commercial fetishism (consumer hi-tech products) and biological implants that tethered together Objects with electronic devices, devices that act as counter-phobic objects warding off anxiety from these fear-inducing “threats.” Its action is bound to working out the enigmatic message from the child’s exclusion of the primal scene and it demonstrates the sadomasochism associated with other acts of BDSM. Please read further the link below.

STAGE VIOLENCE, POWER, AND THE DIRECTOR: Interpreting the evidence of electronic targeted assaults and body violations using electronic stimulation and radiofrequency — Proclivities’ Principle Wisdom (


Lorenzer, A. (1965). Ein Abwehrsyndrom bei traumatischen Verlaufen [A defensive syndrome in traumtic processes]. Psyche Z psychoanal 19:685–700.

Niedecken, D. (2016). The primal scene and symbol formation. The International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 97(3), 665–683. Video abstract of the paper:

Laplanche, J. (2004). Die ratselhafte Botschaft des Anderen und ihre Konsequenzen fur den Begriff des UnbewuBten im Rahmen der allgemeinen Verfuhrungstheorie [The enigmatic message of the other and its implications for the concept of the unconscious in the context of the genderal seduction theory]. Psyche Z psychoanal 58:898–913.

Mitzlaff, S. & Niedecken, D. (2013). Zerstorung des Denkens in Institutionen [Destruction of thinking in institutions]. Frankfurt: Brandes und Apsel.

Britton, R. (1989). The missing link: Parental sexuality in the Oedipus Complex. In Britton R., Feldman, M., O’Shaughnessy, E., editors. The Oedipus Complex Today: Clinical Implications, 83–101. London. Karnac Books.

Horkheimer, M. and Adorno, T.W. (1973). Dialectic of Enlightenment, Cummingm J. translator. London. Allen Lane.

Winnicott, D.W. (1971). “The use of the Object and relating through identifications.” In Playing and Reality. Harmondsworth. Penguin, 1980.

Musical source to consider regarding Niedecken’s theory of a primal scene terzet:

Gustav Holtz. (1925) Terzetto (Flute, Oboe, Violin)


Mother, Daughter, Gardener, Student, Graduate, Cook, Care-Giver, Lover of Books, Reader of Philosophy, Interested in Psychoanalysis

Exploring layers of trauma that have been transmitted socially, politically, spatially, and intergenerationally

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Tags: Abuse, Physical Assualt, Sexual Assault, Sexual Violence, Rape, Domestic Violence, Terrorism, Trauma

When I was growing up my father tried to encourage me to do things like eat the fat and grizzle off my steak because it “puts hair on your chest” my sister would obey. I never did. As far as females would go, who would want hair on their chest. But my sister would comply. She gobbled it up happily. They said it tasted like butter. He would also encourage aggression like a crowd would cheer for an opponent in a fight. Being who my father was, male aggression was admired and he encouraged it in us, but I was less aggressive than my sister. My sister would sup up the reward and admiration bestowed for it and after observing, experiencing, and then acting out aggressive behavior my family’s cultural ethos was slowly distilled. I was depressed in childhood, withdrawn, quiet. I retreated into myself. I now understand the phrase “abuse-related incapacity” because I had become self-withdrawn.

Now I am 52, soon to be 53, and I find myself in a toxic relationship with my twin sister, my mother, and my sister’s boyfriend. After allowing me to live here in my mother’s house with my 86-year-old mother, I was told that I have to take care of her. I have no income or spousal support. So, my sister had agreed to let us use the American Express card for groceries and necessities. But then I am made sick for using it! They are using electronic targeting against me for accepting their help. Yet, I’m still expected to care for my mother and attend to her needs while being abused with electromagnetic frequency. So, who is using this technology on us? Who is causing us pain? We are being watched and I don’t think my family is the only one involved in my stalking. They shoulder some of the blame, they shoulder some of the responsibility for the abuse that is perpetrated against me but there are other men out there that may be working with them. I don’t know?

Being in a relationship with my sister is like being in a funhouse where there are constantly shifting floors and walls. You never know where you stand because at any moment a wall can shift and you find yourself in another room. The rules change arbitrarily. I was told I had to act as a servant to my mother while periodically being abused by the three of them. I was told I could live here, take care of my mother, help her with breakfast, bathing and washing, cleaning and cooking, grocery shopping, and lawn care. And as a token of appreciation, I would get $5.00 a day for a little alcohol. Not a healthy habit, I know. Then someone started harming me with electromagnetic frequency and it forced me to cope using alcohol every day. If I could have drunk more, I would have and that is something that was a major change from my previous behavior. Of course, I would drink before all this started happening but it was never hard alcohol. It was maybe 3 to 4 beers of my favorite beer or 3 to 4 glasses of my favorite wine 3 times weekly. After studying psychoanalysis, I am in a better position to understand the mechanizations that have contributed to, not only my own pathology but to other family members’ pathology.

Then my sister and her boyfriend came to my house when my son was in the 9th grade and they took him out of the house because I couldn’t provide adequate space for him. They are abusive people but because they had wealth, a large home, fine cars they were perceived as being “upstanding citizens.” The kind of people the federal government would want to hire because they pay their bills, own homes, have cars, own credit lines, and pay their taxes. But wealth is not an indication of moral standing. Abusive people produce underachievers and instill a sense of defeat and failure because they DON’T ENCOURAGE, THEY DON’T SUPPORT, AND THEY CERTAINLY LACK ANY REAL CONCERN OR EMPATHY FOR ANOTHER’S WELL BEING. And although my sister and her boyfriend can help provide my son assistance, I feel he may not be in a safe place. Because she tells me all the time, “He’s just like you!” And I’m her little tool, her little plaything she gets to manipulate and exploit because she can. They tell people, “I’ll help you.” That’s what she told my mother and me and then, the floor and walls shifted, they get angry and act out against us because we are their “sycophants” for needing their help. They don’t know how or maybe don’t want to help people figure out a plan to be self-sufficient, they want you to be dependent on them, or on alcohol, so they can manipulate you. It’s the game psychopaths play.

I have been abused, sexually, physically, and emotionally and while this is all going on, they want to “fix” me while I am being abused. Is this not the very abuse that is perpetuating the previous abuses in the first place? I have been raped several times in my life and somehow it has just been perceived as “it’s what men sometimes do.” On this particular night, they were experimenting with electromagnetic frequency and sleep to sedate me. I know they were experimenting on me because I started to dream vividly. I fell asleep one night while my son was staying overnight at my sister’s and I woke up in the morning with vaginal soreness. I had not been drinking the night before because this was at a time, I didn’t drink every day. I was much thinner and younger then and one might say I represented as a symbol for “aesthetic sexual beauty.” I am certain I had been violated the night before but because I was unconscious, I don’t remember anything that happened. This has happened to me before with men I would date, but never in my own home. Women can be used as vehicles and/or “lent out” for sex and payment. I’m fairly certain this happened on one occasion with a particular guy I was living with at the time but what happened in my home that night? Was I “lent out” for payment?

There are a group of people at Shop-Rite. When I arrive in the store, at first, I don’t feel anything, but then five minutes after I arrive, I feel electromagnetic frequency turned on. Is it someone working at the store turning on the frequency or is someone following me? It also gets turned on when I sit down at my lap-top, and this I feel has something to do with what I have chosen to study; psychoanalysis, object relations theory, and abnormal psychology. I’ve noticed a direct correlation between the electromagnetic frequency I’ve been experiencing and my wireless router. The implants, I have two, that are located in my body seem to respond to electromagnetic fields; cellular broadcasting signals. These signals cast a signal and make me feel tired so I don’t want to move around. As a result, I lay down in bed and have become sedentary like my 86-year-old mother.

Google Earth not only records street and road information but also records the IP address of wireless routers. This is done so that when Google interacts with people, they can associate an IP address to a location. I’m fairly certain the implant in my lower abdomen acquires wireless signals but I don’t know how because you need a password to access services. The other implant in my head, I don’t know if it acquires wireless signals or if it is turned in to a certain frequency like a two-way radio that transmits audio.

Despotism creates an atmosphere for revolution. It is like John F. Kennedy said, “Those who make a peaceful revolution impossible make a violent revolution inevitable.” Through the repeated denial of rights, usurpations of power, and acts of dehumanization by those in power cause the manifestations of hate speech and the development of political ideologies that are the foundation of violent revolutions. There is a reason why a small number of battered women kill their abusers. It has happened at various times to despotic tyrants in human history.

I’m screaming at my family because that is what they do to me. They come into my home and act aggressively towards me like an abusive intimate partner. Issuing aggressive demands, “Give me $500.00.” When I say, “No. I can’t give you $500.00, I can give $300.00.” They respond with even more aggression, “No. I want $500.00.” If this goes on long enough it causes me to start acting like them through arousal and transference a screaming match ensues. It is as we have exactly witnessed with Donald Trump and his hate speech and rhetoric. It caused arousal and transference of the symbolic relationship and they acted with aggression as they moved into the Capitol building.


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Metis’ Law: Castration introduces only one mode of symbolization

The normal infantile fantasies of parthenogenesis need the differentiating prohibition from the mother: you cannot be a mother now, but you, a girl, can grow up to be one, and you, a boy cannot

Men must also submit to a prohibition on their parthenogenetic fantasies – they have to become ‘those who cannot give birth’. Castration introduces only one mode of symbolization …

This prohibition we might call ‘The Law of the Mother‘, on a par in principle with ‘The Law of the Father‘ in the castration complex.” ~ Juliet Mitchell

Blind Justice

It is for this reason that men and women resolve their denials in different ways. Why do we have more women suffering from eating disorders (anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder) than men? Why are men predominately the aggressors when it comes to physical assaults, homicides and rape? These are some basic gender differences when it comes to how men and women resolve denial or what is better understood as the castration complex.

In abnormal psychology, when someone is suffering from the repetition compulsion, there is usually some unresolved past traumata that has gone unresolved. It is the work of the individual, to do the work of mourning, of coming to terms with the trauma and resolving the psychic conflict so the person can live a happier life. For this reason there are fundamental difference in terms of object relations when it comes to cultural laws relating to matricide and patricide.

In the cultural law of matricide, hatred is cast onto the Female Object. This can happen as the casting of hatred onto the Female Self or onto the Object Other (another object who may not necessarily be female). This presents a pathological state where one seeks out to control and dominate the Object that is either the Female Self or the Object Other. Since castration introduces only one mode of symbolization, we may read the self annihilation in fatal cases of anorexia as an attack upon the mother-self. How each individual case reads will be different because each case encompasses different childhood experiences. The vomiting out of food in bulimia is understood as the ‘vomiting out of mothers milk‘. A substance that embodies lethal toxicity.

A woman’s desire to build her muscles in the athletic sport of bodybuilding may have more to do with a rejection of her mother and a wished for penis in resolving her own castration. Upon realising she is without a penis, a woman may be triggered in her life fabricate one. From personal experience, I believe these body building exploits to be the result of some emotional trigger. One that has left her feeling weak and powerless. But this is not abnormal behavior because her castration anxiety has been harnessed and directed in a productive, beneficial, healthy behavior.

I cannot speak about the cultural laws of patricide because I have not study them in depth, but can say that the high rate of male-to-male patterned homicide, physical assault, and rape may reflect a clue about how males are taught to demonstrate their masculinity or ‘what it means to be a man‘. As a woman, I can better understand the mechanism operating at both the personal and cultural level that influence abnormal psychology in women. Their unhealthy desire to be extremely thin, or their unhealthy desire to have repetitive cosmetic surgeries, and their paramount fear of becoming their mothers which is a fundamental fear among all women.

Likewise, I am often reminded when I see black male rap artists draping themselves in layers of expensive gold and brand name icons, a symbolic message that can be read, “I am valuable!A validation that creatively addresses their invalidation as young black men formerly living on the fringes of social power.

The Selfobject Function of Weapons: When words fail and bodies speak

The selfobject weapons of a violent video game. More recent reports of electronic assaults from people claiming to be Targeted Individuals (TIs) may be the result of advancing electronic technologies used in war.

Updated: December 14, 2019

“Weapons serve a variety of functions, both for individuals and for society. One such function is that of a selfobject for narcissistically vulnerable persons. This selfobject function allows the damaged self to maintain cohesion and to offset feelings of vulnerability and powerlessness. Because the weapon allows the personality to feel in control and to exert dominance over others, it may come to be viewed in an idealized manner. This is very similar to the idealizing selfobject transference described by Kohut. Weapons are more likely to become selfobjects for those personalities suffering from some degree of self pathology. The selfobject function of weapons, however, may have significance beyond individual psychopathology. Groups of individuals, societies, and even nations may utilize weapons to counter feelings of vulnerability and to diminish fragmentation of the group’s collective self. Their destructive potential may be unleashed in response to an intense narcissistic injury and narcissistic rage. The importance of weapons can thus be better understood by examining them within the context of self-psychology.”

The above-referenced quotation is from the abstract “The Selfobject Function of Weapons: A Self Psychology Examination” written by Theodore B. Feldmann and Phillip W. Johnson in the Journal of the American Academy of Psychoanalysis 1992, 20, 4, p. 561-576.

I’d like to connect these ideas to the use of electronic weapons and the targeting of certain individuals and groups who claim they are suffering from electronic assaults. A theory could be postulated that the perpetrators to this type of crime, which as of yet has not been fully analyzed, are individual perpetrators who are suffering from some degree of self pathology that implicates them in being narcissistically vulnerability, and who may be suffering from fragmentation from the collective group’s self-identity. All this fuels their destructive ends by unleashing pent-up narcissistic injury and narcissistic rage on the targeted individuals. The type of psychologies that belong to this group of self-psychology has traditionally belonged to the psychopathology of masculinity. That is to say, men who commit homicide. The self-psychology of women significantly differ in terms of how they utilize violence and how they introject and project their own self-psychology to a viewing public. Another book to consider “Beauty Bound: Why Women Strive for Physical Perfection” written by R. Freedman in 1986 may attest to how women’s tendency to strive towards mechanisms of perfection through the self-castration of the surgical knife. The comparison of how two similar, yet strikingly different, narcissistic pathologies play out in the human psyche.

What we can connect to the psychoanalysis of “selfobject weapons” can be a discussion on how the body, used as a prop or symbol in the conscious or unconscious fantasies of the self, as in female bodybuilding, female strippers and even male strippers, high-end paid escorts, can serve as the Aesthetic Object from which one can procure sexual gratification and ego reinforcement. Body shape is one form of female power. Another prop or symbol for which to compare can be that of a uniformed police officer with his sidearm. For the female bodybuilder, the phallus that was denied to her by her father, combined with the conscious awareness of her castrated vagina, gives rise to the creative solution to which she can solve her problem. Her lack of a phallus. This creative perversion becomes the disarticulated female body of Hans Bellmer’s “The Doll“. Blonde bombshell facial beauty that is connected to the disarticulation of expressive language. Her female blonde beauty is connected to male form through the over the development of male body parts; the large, lean, bulging male bicep muscles, the lean, well built, robust athletic quadriceps are all examples of perverse disarticulation. These body parts all serve to render in symbolic form her possession of an erect male phallus. It is the same use discussed in The Selfobject Function of Weapons by Theodore B. Feldmann and Phillip W. Johnson published in the Journal of the American Academy of Psychoanalysis. When weapons serve the selfobject function they allow the damaged self to maintain cohesion and to offset feelings of vulnerability and powerlessness by allowing an avenue to which violence and retribution can be unleashed on others. It is the same self psychopathology of perpetrators who use electronic weapons to target certain groups of individuals with electronic assaults.

In the paper “Trauma, Shame, and Group Psychotherapy: A Self Psychology Perspective” by Emanuel Shapiro, Shapiro recounts Freud’s explanation for when the psyche experiences a traumatic event. “According to Freud, when an emotionally traumatic event occurs, the mental apparatus automatically attempts to regain psychic equilibrium and homeostasis by suppressing the affects that threaten to overwhelm it. Despite efforts to suppress these affects, they are expressed through neurotic and emotional means. Traumatic neurosis is a syndrome that occurs as an aftermath of sudden shock, fright or prolonged exposure to overwhelming stimulation. Clinical manifestations include: anxiety, limitations of various cognitive functions, emotional outbursts, insomnia, repetition in thought speech or fantasy of the traumatic situation, and repetitive dreams in which the traumatic event is re-experienced. Classical psychoanalysts believe that repetition of the traumatic situation in thought, speech, fantasy of dreams is an expression of the repetition compulsion in its most undisguised form (Eidelberg, 1968).”

When we speak of hysteria, in classical psychoanalytic theory, the psychoneurotic symptoms represent drives that have broken through the defensive barrier as a result of a withdrawal of energy from pre-existing defensive functions. Instead, the energy is used to master the trauma. An example of a form of hysteria would be the traumatic loss of a loved one which ushers in the symptoms of hysteria. A flight from traditional defensive functions and where the energy used to master the trauma is transformed into intense activity. The movie Elizabethtown portrays this type of scenario in which the patriarch of a family dies from a sudden heart attack. The wife of the dead husband, portrayed by Susan Sarandon, becomes hysterical in a worldwind frenzy of activity in an attempt to flee processing the trauma as a way of mastering the trauma. An obvious null end game and maladaptive solution which do not serve the psychic apparatus in navigating the loss and separation of death. It has been suggested that the level of intelligence plays a part in one’s ability to surmount narcissistic loss. However, those individuals with a history of past trauma and abuse may be more susceptible to traumatic neurosis when new traumatic events occur. They may suffer relapses. With regard to the female body and traumatic neurosis, the body is often used as a canvass with which to express their emotions. These linguistic expressions are sometimes carried out in violent introjected ways. With regard to the male body and traumatic neurosis, other bodies are often used as a canvass with which to express their emotions and it is usually carried out by violent projective means as seen in the many cases of mass random shootings.

Source References:
Theodore B. Feldmann and Phillip W. Johnson. (1992) “The Selfobject Function of Weapons: A Self Psychology Examination.” Journal of the American Academy of Psychoanalysis, 20(4), 561-576. Retrieved from

Shapiro, E. (1999). “Trauma, Shame, and Group Psychotherapy: A Self Psychology Perspective.” Group, 23(2), 51-65. Retrieved from

The Violence In Misnaming Harm In Conflict Relations

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PHOTO: Immigrant children separated from their parents at the US border.

SYNOPSIS: Sarah Schulman in her book Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating harm, community responsibility, and the duty of repair argues the point that involving police as arbiters in domestic violence cases, can sometimes serve to further escalate violence by bringing punitive judgments against women seeking help from their perpetrators. She discusses how the social structure of gender, race, and class contribute to obscuring violence. How conditions that may be created in part by sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, immigration status, disability, and class oppression contribute to both Abuse and Conflict, all of which are under-explored topics with which to facilitate our understanding of violent social phenomenon. And how early trauma, addiction, and mental illness contribute to Conflict escalation instead of Conflict Resolution is also obscured. In my opinion, what Schulman seems to be trying to explain is the inter-transgenerational telescoping of Supremacist ideologies that have not left mainstream American thinking. Even after abolition of slavery, the women’s rights movement, de-segregation of Black America, and most recently the de-classification of homosexuality as a mental ill we are still not free from social injustices. Our American history keeps coming back to us through the repetitive grotesque presence of prejudicial thinking and the perpetuation of myth narratives, both in our private relationships and in our public leadership. Myth narratives that perpetuate women as men’s property and myth narratives that support victim blaming by phrases, “She deserved to get raped.” The telescoping and inter transmission of these ideologies are at the heart of America’s intimacy issues. I for one have been told as a single mother, “If I decided to have that child, then I made my bed and I should be made to lay down in it.” Another words, because I decided to have offspring out of wedlock, I was undeserving of any real help. That, my maternal struggle was my lot in life and so I had to endure punishment, void of child support and emotional support. That I should have to struggle was their ideology. This is, in my opinion, a main component of any Supremist’s way of thinking. Having “the weaker man” struggle because they are “deserve of it” is nothing more than Victim Blaming. Not only had I been victimized by the father of my child, who refused to assist me, I was victimized for producing offspring outside of the marriage contract by even some of my own family members. My mother never wanted me to have children and my ex’s mother certainly didn’t want to have pay for her son’s irresponsibility. When I defied my mother’s orders, the same narratives that flowed from my ex’s mouth, soon began flowing from my own mother’s mouth. These narcissistic narratives were self-serving at best and sought only to promote and reinforce the powers that be. In the end, the collateral damage are the children who are caught in the crossfire of political power struggle that turns hostile. As a result I was punished for refusing to enter into a marriage contract, and blamed for not having an abortion. The phrases, “Don’t ever have children” and “Marry me!” were orders that I had choose to defy. The understanding that has come down to me through this reading and my own personal experience is simply, “Be careful where you place power.” To read further regarding Conflict and Abuse click on the link below:

The Police as Arbiters of Relationships

The Police as Arbiters of Relationships


The Police as Arbiters of Relationships. Decades of organized politics by anti-violence, feminist, and victims’ rights activists transformed the social understanding of partner/family violence and introduced new terms and ideas into the public imagination. These initial grassroots movements against violence emerged in the 1960s and were often related to other radical organizations geared toward transformation of the powers. As University of Florida professor Kim Emery reminds me, because of then contemporary social currents gesturing towards big picture structural critiques, the movements were more focused on empowering women than on punishing men. Anti-poverty, anti-racist, and women’s liberation movements analyzed violence against women and children within the overlapping of those categories of oppression; patriarchy, poverty, and racism were often cited as roots of violence against women. Feminism brought critiques of the role of women in families to the surface. Women were trapped financially, but also emotionally within the concepts of family to which they were expected to sacrifice their own wishes for themselves to the wishes of male partners, male relatives, and adult male children. Analysis of the social constraints that accompany motherhood, its mandatory nature in order for a woman to have self-worth and approval of her family and of society, were paramount. For the first time heterosexuality was understood as an institution that was propagandized and imposed by force. Inadequate access to reproductive control and an understanding that capitalism produces and is reliant on poverty fueled these political analyses and efforts.

But many initially radical movements in the 1960s and ’70s soon became single-issue and reform-oriented, and moved into bureaucratic relationships with government. As Nancy A. Matthews documents in her 1994 book Confronting Rape: The Feminist Anti-Rape Movement and the State, increased consciousness of the right to live without violence, the subsequent enormous demand for feminist services like activist-run hotlines and rape crisis centers, and the expansion of service provision created a need for funding in the late 1970s that went beyond grassroots resources. This led to government funding, professionalization, and a bureaucratization of anti-rape collectives and community- based services. I know from my own experience a s a CETA (Comprehensive Employment and Training Act) worker in a feminist health center that the election of Ronald Reagan in 1980 quickly dismantled this twenty-year-old-job-training program that had assisted many grassroots organizations. The search for new funding transformed politically motivated services into containment by municipal, state, and federal agencies. Anti-violence politics, along with other revolutionary impulses, changed from a focus working to transform patriarchy, racism, and poverty to cooperation and integration with the police. This has proven to be a significant turn because the police are, ironically, the embodiment of patriarchy, racism, and the enforcement of the US class system.

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The placement of the authority to “stop violence” into the hands of the police produce a crisis of meaning. The police are often the source of violence, especially in the lives of women, people of color, trans women, sex workers, and the poor. And the police enforce the laws of the United States of America, which is one of the greatest sources of violence in the world. US foreign policy is enforced by the military who are a global police force, and domestic order is enforced by the federal, state, and city structures of policing. The law is designed to protect the state, not the people who are victimized by the state. So while police intervention can importantly separate violent adults from their victims or each other after violence has begun, the job of “stopping violence” has shifted from stopping the causes of violence to reacting punitively to the expressions of those unaddressed causes.

What was even more distracting and confusing was that the job of punishing the expressions of patriarchy, racism, and poverty was assigned to the police, who also cause violence. This responsibility, in some cases, produced additional acts of violence on the apart of the government, like “stop and frisk,” and racial profiling that committed violence in the name of claiming to fight violence. These laws also produced more access for the state to step into the homes and families of the poor, and more incarceration of Black and other poor men. Instead of empowering women and the poor, the fate of the traumatized was increasingly in the hands of the power of the police acting as a group to represent oppressive systems.

Now, we all know that a very short time ago, women and children had no recourse with the state if they were subjected to physical violence or severe domination. And we all know that many women and children are still subjected to unrestrained violence and severe domination without recourse. We also know that the state over-polices vulnerable communities based on race, poverty, legal status, sex work, or being transgender and other contested existences, and therefore the state itself is often the source of violence. So here we found ourselves in a multi-part conundrum:

* Some of us are able to use the police to help resist violence and domination.
*Some of us continue to experience violence and domination despite the police.
*Some of us experience the police themselves as the source of violence and domination.
*Some of us call on the police because we don’t know how to solve problems.
*Some of us use the rhetoric of violence and domination to avoid the discomfort of facing our own aggressions.
*Some of us use the police to reinforce our own unjust social power.

These are not “equal” experiences. For some, the pain caused by these imbalances defines the meaning of advantages that the same inequalities create for others. More importantly, the simultaniety of these realities, experiences, and relationships to the state can serve as a model of how to understand that structures can have different meaning for different people at the same time. This is the fundamental reason why everyone needs to be heard in order for conflict to be resolved.

While radical anti-violence movements declined, the police got primary control of the official discourse of “ending violence,” at the same time that they were causing violence. Expressions of this confusion appeared on network television. There is the zeitgeist and then their is the corporate zeitgeist. Television shows like Law and Order: Special Victims Unit surfaced with a focus on sex crimes and family violence. In a typical episode, a purely innocent victim, who does not participate in creating conflict and is inherently good, is stalked/abused/attacked by a purely and inherently evil predator. The answer to this conundrum is the police. Popular mass entertainment, a corporate entity that is not self-critical, makes the message clear: people are either victims or predators, and therefore the answer is always the police, who are also not self-critical. If some of these people were understood as Conflicted instead of only as victim/perpetrator, then the solution to conflict would be mutual accountability and negotiation, rather than escalation, which would locate authority and responsibility far from the hands of the police.

Unfortunately, the necessary social conversation that could help us to understand how people participate in the escalation of conflict became conflated with the real crisis of blaming victims, even though they are two entirely separate things. As I will discuss later, the issue of how people operating with Supremacy ideology escalate conflict was ignored. And how traumatized, anxious, or addicted people can escalate conflict became a repressed subject in the name of not inflating blame-the-victim rhetoric, since understanding is conflated with blame. The solution? Again, the police. This reductive, dichotomous, bad/good message has been reinforced daily for decades, through corporate entertainment media, and the arts in a way that justifies the power of the police and falsely presents it a neutral, objective, and value-free.

(more text precedes from the book at this point but was not included.) Citizens too could manipulate the vocabulary of violence, just like the government, to cover up their own destructive and cruel injustices. The focus on the causes of both Conflict and Abuse – male Supremacy, poverty, racism, and an inability to problem solve – require radical structural change in self-understanding and power. Instead, a simplistic and often destructive emphasis on who is right and who is wrong was replicated so that we, who surround the conflict, could know on whom to inflict punishment, thereby proving our own righteousness.

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As University of Illinois professor Beth Richie crucially articulates in her book Arrested Justice: Black Women, Violence, and America’s Prison Nation:

“There is no solid, longitudinal research on the relationship between specialized new laws, legal procedures, or mandatory protocols and changes in rates of violence against women in more disadvantaged communities.”

For some women, there may be more punishment, but there may not be more prevention. Calling the police may interrupt real violence, but it is not designed to address the causes of actual violence or actual Abuse, nor does it address the confusion between Conflict and Abuse. Instead, putting the police in charge of both domestic Abuse and domestic Conflict creates a punitive response as the primary, and sometimes only, response. How the social structure of gender, race, and class contribute to violence is obscured. How conditions that may be created in part by sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, immigration status, disability, and class oppression contribute to both Abuse and Conflict is under-explored. And how early trauma, addiction, and mental illness contribute to Conflict escalation instead of resolution is also obscured.

It is very difficult to measure rates of partner or family violence. It is hard to know if rates of assault are actually rising or falling, or if it is reporting that is rising and falling. We don’t know how to understand fluctuations in the numbers of people who actually make complaints, how the police understand complaints, how complaints lead to arrests, and the relationship between arrests and actual convictions. We don’t have a clear sense of how the police and the courts differentiate between Abuse and Conflict. The highest rate of reported rape that led to conviction in New York history was in 1992, when there were approximately 5,000 rape convictions. In 2010, there were a little over 2,000. We don’t know if this connected to gentrification*, which removes poor people from the city and replaces them with both perpetrators and victims who have more resources to evade both sexual violence itself and the reach of the law. Money, whiteness, and education help perpetrators and victims both to evade state intervention.

We do know that most sexual assaults are not reported, especially those that take place within families. Many people do not understand exactly what sexual assault is. And sometimes legal definitions do not correspond to how people understand their own lives. While some sex crimes are crystal clear, others are entirely about perception. For some women I know, having sex with their partner at times when they feel ambivalent or not fully engaged is defined in their minds as coercion or even Abuse. They find it objectionable or even damaging. For others, that is part of the literal making of love: the idea that we give to our partners in moments when we are not 100 percent engaged, just as we negotiate in other ways within relationships. Or in terms of casual encounters, quasi-unpleasant to negative sexual experiences are devastating to some, and just the way things go to others. How previous experience of trauma contribute to an individual’s understanding of whether or not an experience is Abuse is a factor that we do not have a process of integrating into our understanding of objective crime or objective justice. How some experiences permanently mark some people while not affecting others make objective standards of right and wrong difficult to establish.

Clearly, inaccurate or projected claims of Abuse when in fact Conflict is at the heart of the problem, hurt the person being accused, keep the accuser from a progressive confrontation with the self, and divide and destroy communities. But these actions create much more harm than for the participating parties alone. Professor Richie’s book gave me some new insights into the larger, more long-range consequence of conflating Conflict with Abuse. Among other revelations, Richie documents how significant “Power Over” is in the lives of many poor women because of poverty. Or what Hunter College Professor Jacqueline Nassy Brown calls “the gendered politic of staying, going and returning.” Richie focuses specifically on Black women. Homicide by an intimate partner is one of the most common causes of death for young Black women in America. According to Richie, 25 percent of Black women experience abuse from their intimate partners, which places them at the average national rate of 22 percent, regardless of race. Richie reports that Black women are killed by a spouse at a rate that is twice that for white women, in part because Black women cannot afford to leave. Poverty, of course, creates vulnerability both to other people and to the state. Oppression, which is itself by definition a state of vulnerability, in turn produces even more vulnerability. Lack of mobility, financial autonomy, access of housing, accurate representation in media, entertainment, and the arts, health care, and representation in government: all of these produce more violence and problems, and fewer conditions conducive to the kind of structural problem-solving that poverty both requires and obstructs.

So, sustained, unilateral violent assault – the kind of experience that these laws, definitions, and social paradigms of Abuse were developed to address – affect Black women in America in similar numbers but at a significantly higher level of lethal impact than white women. Therefore, the exploitation, watering down, and casual overuse of these arenas of experience are detrimental to Black women, along with women, men, and children of all races who are truly victimized. (more follows from here but was not included. To read further please see Sarah Schulman’s book “Conflict Is Not Abuse” which continues from here on page 90.)
*Gentrification is the process of renovating and improving a house or district so that it conforms to middle class tastes. 2) The process of making a person or activity more refined or polite.

Schulman, Sarah. “Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating harm, community responsibility, and the duty of repair.” Vancouver. Arsenal Pulp Press. (2016). pg. 83-90.

Cracked Standards: The Dred Scott Decision and Man’s Persistent Struggle with Intimacy

Cracked Standards
America’s Cracked Standards

The following is an example of the prominent social Darwinism that was prevalent in the mentality of men during the birth and early stages of the American constitution. It’s philosophical ideologies are also closely connected with established male dominance and the perpetuation of white male patriarchy in what some people believe to be “white male privilege.” This quote comes from the, The Dred Scott Decision, an opinion of Chief Justice Taney complete with an essay on the Natural History of the Prognathous Race of Mankind. White supremacy is the direct by-product of social Darwinism. White supremacy, or any supremacy whatsoever, is a product of high levels of narcissism and/or personality disorders. These ideologies hold paranoid delusions and fantasies in what one believes and perceives as “superior.”

“The doctrine of 1776, that all (white) men “are created free and equal,” is universally accepted and made the basis of all our institutions, State and National, and the relationship of citizenship – the rights of individual – in short, the status of the dominant race, is thus defined and fixed for ever.” (1)

“A free negro of the African race, whose ancestors were brought to this country and sold as slaves, is not a “citizen” within the meaning of the Constitution of the United States.”(1) 

The Dred Scott Decision was a US Supreme Court ruling in which an African American negro, having lived in a free state and territory, was denied his freedom and with it, all his rights to US citizenship. As a result he was denied the right to sue in federal court. Similarly, women, too, were denied some rights of US citizenship. Women, although acknowledged as US citizens, were denied the opportunity to vote or hold political office. They were considered “inferior” to male dominance and, like the negro slave, were looked upon as “property” by white male patriarchy. They were the property of the husband or property owner. Women were denied the right to own property as well.
We see similar narratives in men who use phrases to establish ownership over their wives and girlfriends like, “You belong to me.” Or “Your ass is mine.” Or “I own you.” Low-self esteem and paranoid fears often fuel the need to control and dominate another human life, whether it be through the law or through acts of physical violence, sexual violence, induced use of substances, electromagnetic frequency or other techniques of fear and intimidation in mind control. This characteristic is so massively present in mainstream American thinking, I can’t help but feel it is the primary reason our US presidential leader was elected into office. This man represents the shared values in white male supremacy. A man who persistently complains about the media, with their propaganda smear campaigns against him, yet it is the very same tactical approach he used during his campaign rallies. The minds of the American consumer are manipulated regularly through the use of these tactics over media, and social media, furthers its propaganda. To further prove American man’s struggle with intimacy, The “Tank in the Bedroom” has now become the “Tank in our US Democracy.”

In the International Journal of Psychoanalysis Adrienne Harris wrote an article entitled “Intimacy: The tank in the bedroom.” Harris discusses how one’s intimate life is rooted in the gendered experience of our sexuality and this sexuality is always already infused by regulation, by violence, and by power.

“After the collapse of communism in the Czech Republic a contemporary psychoanalyst in Prague, Martin Mahler, commented on the clinical, social, and professional dilemmas of recovering in the Czech Republic with the allegory, “The tank in the bedroom:”
“The Hungarian writer, György Konrád, once wrote (2009): Some time ago, a butcher lived in our village. He had a house on the corner of a steep street. There was a military base near the village. Once, the butcher’s wife was changing bedding and a tank crashed through the bedroom wall because the road was ice and slippery. The front of the house was damaged. The woman was also somewhat damaged, but not too much. When I met the butcher next time, I asked him about what happened. “History came to us,” he said. The grotesque presence of a tank in the bedroom describes the ever-repeating experience of the loss of a safe and familiar home, a very “unheimlich” space in Central European experience.” (2)

“The ever-repeating experience of [human] loss” through a loss of very real or perceived sense of security, follow with the fall away from the trusted and familiar. Yet our perceptions and intuitions can lie to us. When we see a transgender male dressed in woman’s make-up and woman’s dress we feel uncomfortable. We feel uncomfortable because what we see represents a deception. But is this deception any real threat to the interior social stability or social fabric of our society?

“Living in an American culture that is suppose to be one of the most advanced technological countries on the globe, yet the subtle covertly and sometimes violently overtly expressed forms of hatred still linger. “History comes to us.” A quote that can remind each one of us that our psychic roots are grounded in the primitive infantile sexual experience. The tank in the bedroom can manifest itself in many different forms, the paranoid-schizoid position of the malevolent rapist, the girl suffering from early sexualized trauma, and the transgendered individual making their way through transition. All require the work of mourning, not just for them, but for the American public as well. An American culture that still produces levels of narcissism and phobic hatred.” (3)

America is living in a fractured body politic. “Adrienne Harris recounts in this journal article the shame of, and the daily traumatic experiences of the phobic encounters of hatred as a transgender couple makes their way through transition. The social turmoil of having to navigate the uncomfortable differences and emotions, in learning how to effectively weather theses differences is how we as a nation can experience one of the deepest connections of love in the agony of accepting someone’s ‘otherness.’ For we have no choice. Homosexuals and transgendered individuals are a protected group.” (3) Yet Americans fall short on this skill. Many lack the courage to face the fear they are experiencing. “Harris discusses nomadic theory and it points toward the uncovering of clues through this therapeutic approach . The nomadic object. The nomadic subject. A subject with, and of, multiple belongings, with a non-unitary base. This theory joins relational psychoanalysis with intersectional models of the subject. “The intersection, a site of crossings, of movements that is regulated and unregulated, potentially violent and orderly. Race, class, gender, sexual orientation, culture, historical incidents, all operate at these intersection in unique and emergent combinations (Faimberg 2005; speaks of the telescoping of generations).* It is through the unpacking of these experiences that what emerges unique to this male subject’s perspective is a delicately interwoven relational symbolic.” (3)

Harris wrote in the final conclusions of her paper, “…we must stand in order to understand collective silences and collective actions.” (2) One aspect of her argument is that symptoms and history co-exist together, and that we are invaded and constituted by much of the social violence we witness, even in its benign and horrible forms. We need to be able to transform symptoms back into history. What we witness in the breakdown of object relations is the intergenerational transmission of social ideologies and perspectives that have endured over time.

One other point to consider, is the the number of past state scandals surrounding ballot box tampering and/or fraudulent practices at the voting polls.

(1) Supreme Court of the United States. (1860). The Dred Scott Decision. Washington, DC. US Library of Congress: Digital Catalogue.
(2) Harris, Adrienne. Intimacy: The tank in the bedroom. International Journal of Psychoanalysis. Vol. 98, Issue 3, June 2017 (pgs. 895-907).
(3) Barna, Karen. Some Commentary On: Intimacy: The tank in the bedroom. Proclivities’ September 27, 2017.

A Victim Of Abuse Speaks Out (Republished)

The Shattered Self - Fragment Art by Cris Vector

Understanding the Language of the Nonverbal In Transmitted Electro-Magnetic Frequency Signals

“…a multitude of observational and longitudinal attachment studies (see Main et al, 2005), that we learn many of the most significant and lasting lessons about who we are in relation to others by the time we are 12 months old. Empirical evidence clearly indicates that the foundations of our internal working models – as well as the habitual attachment and emotion-regulating strategies encoded in these models – are all laid in place well before the acquisition of language. These are the data that underlie Schore’s (2003) conclusion that “the core of the self is ….. nonverbal and unconscious and lies in patterns of affect regulation” (p. 46).

Second, the parent-child relationships that most successfully foster secure attachment are inclusive (Lyons-Ruth, 1999; Bowlby, 1988), meaning that the parent makes as such space as possible for the full spectrum of the child’s subjective experience.”

PERSONAL COMMENT: It is my opinion that this technology is acting like a “parent” or

An electro-magnetic nightmare

“authority figure.” Thus, with an established style of communication and dialogue.

In research studies conducted in the past by the Central Intelligence Agency using mind altering methods, these methods include but were not limited to the use of psychedelic drugs, alcohol, water boarding, and other “strong handed” methods to commandeer control over a person. Most recently electro-shock therapies in experimental transcranial electo-magnetic stimulation have been discovered and are being used to treat a variety of “mental illness.” Just as a side bar comment, Guantanamo Bay was shut down due to the abuses performed by military personal against prisoners being held there. With my experience of electro-magnetic stimulation, the use of electro-Transcranial-magnetic stimulation (shock therapy) the person’s conscious state of awareness is impaired so as to hamper free-will and free thinking. This is done by lowering the conscious state to coerce a confession or coerce re-direction (a change) of opinion, one’s personal perception, and/or affiliations and thereby control the subject’s behavior.

With my experience of electro-magnetic stimulation, I have experienced assaults against various parts of my body through the use of this veiled technology as I walk about in the free world, that is to say, in my community and in my place of residence. Part of this technology exploits my genital regions (anus and vagina). I receive electro-magnetic stimulation in what I believe to be a type of spinal cord stimulator located in my lower back and, as a result, I receive stimulus to various parts of my body including my anal cavity as a form of “anal message” (A former boyfriend who performed this on me as they both practiced anal sex. I would not, and anal stimulation was there “go to” sexual technique to encourage anal play) as well as stimulation to my vaginal cavity.

By lowering one’s conscious state of awareness, a researcher/abuser might be afforded the focus on the nonverbal realm of the patients past experience? If you can’t speak of or find the words to express what is happening (much like one of the abused infants in Main‘s Strange Situation experiment), what other modes of expression can you rely on to give you the data you need? A startled look. Freezing in fear. Other facial expressions of emotions or fear. Avoidance of places, people, and things. Avoidant personality behavior. Expressionless behavior employed not to evoke confrontation also known as Grey Stone Technique of communication. All these elicited responses may give the observer great pleasure in knowing they have affected you in an adverse way.

It is my opinion that this technology is being used to abuse me in a detrimental way as it is directly affecting my adult subjective experience with my relational world in which I live.

“Bowlby’s theory that the child will integrate only what there attachment relationship(s) can accommodate implies that the child will exclude from awareness those thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that risk disrupting attachment relationships, with the result that those thoughts, feelings and behaviors will remain not only undeveloped and unintegrated but often impossible to verbalize. Hence the requirement to “listen” to what is communicated nonverbally if we are to engage in experiences that the patients’ original attachment(s) precluded. To integrate what has been defensively dissociated or excluded, we need to access that in the patient that is as yet unspoken, unthought, and perhaps, unfelt.”

PERSONAL COMMENT: A very important phrase expressed here is “the patient’s experience”

“Research on neural development has shown that the brain centers that mediate language (left cortex, Broca’s area) and autobiographical memory (the hippocampus, in particular) are not effectively “online” until 18 to 36 months of age – hence, the near-universal finding of “infantile amnesia.” Moreover, overwhelming emotions of the kind evoked by trauma suppress the functioning of these same brain structures.”

PERSONAL COMMENT: It is my personal belief that more than one area of the brain is being effected with this technology that I am experiencing; the cerebellum for one, Broca’s area and the hippocampus are another. My reasoning for this can be seen in the fact that I have experienced disruptions in balance, language, and speech formation and memory (ie: memory loss) as a result of electro-magnetic frequency signals.

“Because this equipment was temporarily disabled by overwhelming intense painful emotion, patients with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) are flooded by a chaos of disturbing emotions, somatic sensations, images, and impulses – lack the language to give meaning or context to their fundamental, multi-sensory experience. Subnotation: “Thus deprived of the capacity for expressive language, people who are traumatized may experience “speechless terror” (van der Kolk et al., 1996).””

PERSONAL COMMENT: It is important to note here that I was diagnosed with Schizophrenia. Schizophrenia is defined as a person who experiences hallucination with sensory information that may include audio, smell, and taste. But given my experience with electro-magnetic frequency stimulation it is more likely that I am being abused by someone using advanced technology. “Speechless terror” is a form of fascination or fascinated state. I further propose that children who are emotionally deprived and/or physically abused may experience difficulty in their expressive language skills just as much as an adult with PTSD.

“Trauma, which shuts down Broca’s area and the hippocampus, can be understood to both cause and result from an “emotional hijacking” (Goleman, 1995) in which the amygdala with its links to the affectively oriented right brain overwhelms the hippocampus and its associated abilities to encode, retrieve, and contextualize memories of the trauma.”


PERSONAL COMMENT: What’s interesting is how traumatic experience can result in an “emotional hijacking” and, similarly, how electro-Transcranial magnetic stimulation is directed to “hijack a person’s various nervous systems.” This fact is further elaborated on in the quoted sentence that follows.

“The fact that trauma’s impact registers as it does has implications for our work with many, if not most, of our patients, van der Kolk (1996), arguing that the imprint of trauma is somatic and sensory, advocates using bodily sensations to access experiences that patients lack the words to articulate. While he addresses his very helpful recommendation narrowly to therapists working with PTSD, I would broaden its scope in recognition of the fact that patients with trauma represent anything but a narrow category.”

PERSONAL COMMENT: Aside from the fact the use of veiled electro-magnetic frequency signals, unbeknownst to the human subject is inhumane and unethical as it would likely terrify a person receiving them, to further prove that this technology is irresponsible and unprofessional can be found in the fact that it is being performed completely outside of a controlled setting.

“The infant’s utter dependence upon the attachment figure means that chronic misstatement, depression, and anger on the part of a caregiver may, in and of themselves, be experienced as traumatic. In this connection, Schore (2002) has referred to ‘relational trauma” that arises from experiences of disorganized attachment and may eventuate in borderline and possibly psychotic disorders.

Cognitive scientists have discovered that memory is not monolithic, and they have identified two distinct systems of memory – explicit and implicit. Here’s the shorthand; Explicit memory is roughly coincident with our usual understanding of the term, “memory.” As such, it can be consciously retrieved and reflected upon, it is verbalizable and symbolic, and its content is information and images. Implicit memory by contrast is nonverbal, no symbolic, and unconscious in the sense that it is not available for conscious reflection. Its content involves emotional responses, patterns of behavior, and skills. Implicit memory entails “knowing how” rather than “knowing that.””

PERSONAL COMMENT: It is my opinion that this technology may be rendering some of my explicit memories unverbalizable and/or forgotten. This technology has created memory loss and it has caused failures in language capabilities, written and spoken. It has caused “dreamy conscious states” similar to the use of opiod drugs or more closely related to a “hallucination” which in turn has created fantasized states of dreaming, in short , dreams or day-dreams. If opiods cause brain damage, than what kind of cellular damage does this electro-Transcranial magnetic stimulation cause? It’s important to note that I have not dreamt at night and it is my belief that it is due to the annoying vibrations I feel in my lower back, abdomen, spine, and brain (Spinal Cord Stimulator). No creative functioning is going on in my brain to cause a “hallucination” or what can otherwise be called a “dream.” How am I to creatively problem solve, if I am being made into a “drone.” A person who does not think or feel for himself, but instead whose free-will has been commandeered for someone’s personal pleasure?

“The most important implicit memories involve procedures for being with others and being with oneself. Taken together, these remembered procedures make up what has been called implicit relational knowing (Lyons-Ruth, 1998; Stern et al., 1998).

Implicit knowing is expressed not so much in what we say but rather in how we behave and feel, in how we carry ourselves, and in what we expect from relationships. This knowing usually exists outside reflective awareness – not because we can’t bear to know but because what we know has registered in an implicit form that is hard to retrieve linguistically [because they register as our behavior, feelings, and emotions].”

PERSONAL COMMENT: The following quote is important to my argument against this technology.

“Implicit or procedural knowing constitutes the foundation of the internal working model. It has been documented by attachment researchers to emerge early in life as a function of the quality our first relationships and to persist into adulthood (barring changes in these relationships). An infant may come to know implicitly that his cries of distress will quickly evoke his mother’s soothing presence, for example, and this primal knowing will become the enduring expectation that supportive others will be there when he needs them. For many of our patients, however, early interactions have been problematic, registering implicitly as a dispiriting bred-in-the-bone understanding of the self and others that they cannot easily articulate but also cannot keep from enacting often to their own disadvantage.

…..when these same self-defeating enactments occur in psychotherapy they can be a valuable resource insofar as they enable us to engage and transform the wordless internal representations that hold our patients hostage to the past.”

PERSONAL COMMENT: Likewise when we engage in positive relationships with others we may be given the chance to disarm and disable these self-defeating enactments and that we, too, are given a chance to change and thereby transform our internal representations that have held us hostage to the past. I am just wondering, what is it exactly that this technology I am experiencing trying to change in me? It’s definitely not a positive relationship.

“The words exchanged in psychotherapy float, so to speak, on the stream of nonverbal communication between patient and therapist. The drift of spoken dialogue – what is and is not addressed, and at what depth – is largely determined by the emotional and relational currents that flow beneath the surface of the therapeutic interaction. These undercurrents shape the experience of patient and therapist very much as the infant and caregiver’s experience is shaped by the quality of their (necessarily) nonverbal communication.”

PERSONAL COMMENT: Thus, the cloaked hand of an electro-magnetic signal as the patient perceives its presence, drifts on the nonverbal spoken dialogue. Thus in turn churns the emotional and relational currents that flow beneath the subjects’ surface of being in the interaction of established dialogue it seeks to convey. If an individual feels accosted all the time by this technology, what is the “floating,” “drifting,” “undertone on nonverbal currents” saying to the subject to which it hopes to affect?

Bowlby, J. A secure base: Clinical applications of attachment theory. London: Routledge. (1988)

Goleman, D. Emotional Intelligence. New York. Bantam Books. (1995).

Lyons-Ruth, K. The two-person unconscious: Intersubjective dialogue, enactive relational representations, and the emergence of new forms of relational organization. Psychoanalytic Inquiry, 19, 576-617. (1999)

Lyons-Ruth, K. Implicit relational knowing: its role in development and psychoanalytic treatment. Infant Mental Health Journal, 19(3), 282-289. (1998)

Schore, A.N. Affect regulation and the repair of the self. New York: Norton. (2003)

Schore, A. N. Advances in neuropsychoanalysis, attachment theory, and trauma research: Implications for self psychology. Psychoanalytic Inquiry, 22, 433-484. (2002)

Stern, D. N., Sander, L. W., Nahum, J. P., Harrison, A. M., Lyons-Ruth, K., Morgan, A. C., et al., Non-interpretive mechanisms in psychoanalytic psychotherapy: The “something more” than interpretation. International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 79, 903-921. (1998).

Wallin, David J. Attachment in Psychotherapy. New York. Guilford Press (2007) Chapter 8, Nonverbal Experience and the “Unthought Known” Accessing the emotional core of the self (pg. 115 – 119)

van der Kolk, B. A. The body keeps the score: Approaches to the psychobiology of post-traumatic stress disorder. In B.A. van der Kolk, A.C. McFarlane, & L. Weisaeth (Eds.), Traumatic stress: The effects of overwhelming experience on mind, body, and society(pp. 214-241). New York. Guilford Press. (1996).

On Extreme Parenting and Extreme Submissiveness

Masks on sticks

“When Muriel Rukeyser in “The Poem as Mask” exclaimed “No more masks! No more mythologies,” she was rejecting the traditional division of myth from a woman’s subjectivity….” (1)

In regard to the young black girls who are R. Kelly’s live-in-girlfriends, Azreal Clary and Jocelyn Savage, when extreme prohibitions (extreme submissiveness) are used in parenting, the cause and effect of these types of extreme over controlling forms of neglect and abuse can cause parents to create the exact thing they are trying to prohibit; the female perversion. Sometimes, children are used like slaves; just like African Americans from our pre-civil war period where the voice or speech of the oppressed are not heard. Thus, children and women can become oversights in a capitalistic society that demands performance goals and one that doesn’t readily address socio-economic difference effectively.

The American constitution, as well as its democracy, sets in place certain unalienable rights. One of these rights is the freedom of speech. An individual’s right to take a platform and to speak about that which is harming her or him. For equality a balance must be sought, a balancing between the equal rights of both parties. Most women today do not want to remain silent, they want to feel accomplished. They want to know that their opinions matter and that they have equal opportunities to be heard. If you are not empowering your children by providing them the opportunities to freely express themselves at all levels of development than you are harming their identities and compromising their internal constitutions. What can arise out of the extreme practice of over control, neglect, or abuse are the many sadomasochistic forms of female perversions; cutting, anorexia, bondage and torture, excessive body mutilations, and homosexuality to name a few.

In some of these extreme forms of mental illness, what we witness is the silent actions, enactments against the flesh that demand to be read as a case history. The body becomes the canvas for artist that demands to be read like any book. To read more regarding the manifestations of these forms of perversions I recommend reading Louise J. Kaplan’s Female Perversions with its dichotomy of the male and the female. The male; fetishism, transvestism, sexual masochism, sexual sadism, exhibitionism, voyeurism, pedophilia, necrophilia, and zoohilia. The female perversions that are covered include; kleptomania, homovestism, extreme submissiveness, self mutilations (which include delicate self-cutting, surgical addiction, trichotillomania), female impersonations (the body as icon), anorexia, the incest wife.

“Real men and women, not merely fictional figures, have suffered from, as well as been transfigured by, their own and others’ compulsions, needs and lacks, and it behooves us to understand what languages our cultural pasts have given us, and denied us, to cope with our desires. More than a fashionable literary mode or set of moral commonplaces is at stake here.” ~Erected Wit, Infected Will (2)

“We all, even today, carry with us and enact at the very least the remnants of discursive systems we inherit from our cultural pasts and of which we often have little conscious knowledge or control. In our attempts to make sense of our desires, their unpredictabilities, joys, losses, repressions and returns, we have recourse to these remnants. The erotic stories we construct, or have constructed about us, are all the products of pasts we did not create, worlds we did not know.” ~Erected Wit, Infected Will (2)

With the insights I have gleaned from my personal readings and my personal experiences with mind control, electro-magnetic frequency, gangstalking, electronic harassment and voice-to-skull are all clear attempts by some psychotically foreclosed individual who wants to generate extreme fear in me which would help in the creation of the manifestation of extreme female submissiveness; cowering in fear from the omnipotent will that reigns over me. Often I hear it said of women, “She did to herself. It’s her own fought she is in the predicament she is in.” These are all methods we use to scapegoat and elude the Truth. They are common tactics of manipulation of victims by their perpetrators. The following link describes myths on how we blame women for their victimization by men.

It is said that artists (visual artists) speak a common language. Poets speak a common language. Those who create literary writings also possess a common language and musicians who create music all possess a common language. It has been said that mathematics is its own language too! The point I’m trying to make here is that Language is a crucial element when dealing with the psychology of abuse. To adequately focus the flow of your articulation into constructive mediums like art, literature, music and defensive argument is one of the higher level attributes that make human beings more civilized. The ability to transform anger into something that is productive that helps one transcend the suffering from trauma and abuse is something that allows for Hope for a better future. Carrying out a clandestine plan whose goal is to “take down” the victim. Words that are used to intimidate like “Your fucked!” Used to instill fear and intimidation which are nothing more than tactics of bullying. Individuals who carry out gangstalking and tactics in bullying may be suffering from an impairment in the portions of their brains that allow for the processing of language.

“Petrarchism is theater, the production of a scenario, for which characters – in the form of people, parts of people, and nonhumans (including inanimate) objects are cast. The performance is played before an audience, the crucial member of which is the Petrarchan lover himself viewing [himself] performing . . . . Petrarchism is a detour that, at best, leads asymptotically to intimacy: it never arrives . . . Petrarchism is centered not upon the partner but upon the lover . . . The pain and frustration of earlier times live on unresolved, carried within, always a potential threatening force motivating one to resolutions that never quite work, to an undoing never quite done.” (2)

Individuals who know the human psyche can cast an individual in a theatrical production of petrarchism. A production of scenarios for which the character never fully arrives at the moment of intimacy. It can play on with endless scenes and a cast of characters in which the “lover” never captures his moment. I’ve heard it also called “an endless mascaraed”. This is what I call a seduction based in a deception of conspiracy. A game meant to be played by one’s opponent to keep one’s opponent “busy” so the master of ceremonies can play some place else. These are tactics in counter-intelligence that are used to exhaust the mind and body of the subject.

It is important to note that any technique, device, or manipulation in mind control can be used for grooming under age women for sex, and it can also be used to impair one so that they cannot hold property. That is to say, by usurping his or her power, you gain rights to him or her as a dependent individual. That these techniques undermine the victims right to voice, speech, and expression should be analyzed by federal and state authorities simply because they manipulate, not only one’s mind, but one’s life and livelihood.

A little more on Petrarch and some commentary on Shakespeare, two poets know for their work on the subject of love and seduction.

“Petrarch and Shakespeare are two poets known for their work on the subject of love. While they each approach the subject of their poems through sonnet forms, there are fundamental differences in their style and form, as well as in the way they undergo the discussions of their subjects. Additionally, it is apparent that in “Sonnet 130,” Shakespeare actually satirizes Petrarch’s style and musings as his narrator describes his mistress, whose “eyes are nothing like the sun” (Shakespeare 3:106). Shakespeare appears to making light of the metaphor and exaggerating comparisons found in Petrarch’s work by offering an English sonnet describing the very un-goddess-like nature of this dark mistress (Davis et al. 3:104-105). (3) Conversely, Petrarch’s work is rich in imagery, and does not spare a syllable in its glorification and deification of the object of his desires, Laura. As can be seen in “Sonnet 292″ from the Canzoniere, the extensive use of metaphor and idealization of Petrarch’s female subject are characteristic of the Petrarchan sonnet. The first major difference between the two sonnets is the sonnet form used.” (4)

When I first thought of Petrarchan style, as described by Gary F. Waller in his book English Poetry of the Sixteenth Century, I immediate thought of Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream with its fantastical production of seduction scenes complete with deception and trickery. Here we can see the linguistic style of a person who entertains the audience with an intentional seductive deception, one based in a conspiracy in which the wills of others’ are temporarily disrupted for the purpose of re-directing the appropriated person’s desire. As you may recall from the play Hermia is in love with Lysander, and Lysander is in love with Hermia but cannot marry her because Hermia’s father wants her to marry Demetrius. In a mishap of a love spell cast by the mischievous spirits in the wood, Lysander wakes up in love with Helena who is in love with Demetrius. It is a convoluted and complicated scene which plays out to the audiences amusement, but one which is soon reversed by the devilish sprites. In philosophy, philosophers call this a trope in language, and one that constructs a scene with an intentional deception consistent in voice, tone, and script. In short, a production with a consistent theme of language.

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Source References:
(1) Alice Ostriker, “The Theives of Language: Woman Poets and Revisionist Mythmaking”. Signs. Vol. 8, No. 1 (Autumn, 1982), pp. 68-90 (23 pages). Published by The University of Chicago Press.
(2) Waller, Gary F., English Poetry of the Sixteenth Century. New York. Routledge. Originally published in 1986. Second Impression 1998. page 83-85.
(3) Davis, Paul, Gary Harrison, David M. Johnson, Patricia Clark Smith, John F. Crawford, Eds. The Bedford Anthology of World Literature. 3 Vols. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin’s, 2004.
(4) Carbone II, Steven A. “Comparison of Petrarch’s Sonnet 292 of the Canzoniere and Shakespeare’s Sonnet 130”. Inquiries Journal; Social, Arts, & Humanities. Vol 2. No. 11. (2010).

In The Art Of Conspiracy

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So thinking about rape and thinking about the creation of a seduction (not just a sexualized seduction but an orchestrated conspiracy against another) what we witness as part of the conspiracy is the seduction combining with the urge to humiliate another, all of which revolve around the death drive, the life drive, and the sex drive (the need for reproduction equals the reproduction of creative development or brain embryos / ideas that promote personal success and financial gain as a form of reproduction). I have said that man lacking a vagina and feeling a need to bring forth life through a vaginal cavity, developed advanced tools and technology in an act that ‘birthed’ modern civilization as we know it. Had he a vagina, he may have been ‘whore’ to every Tom, Dick and Harry that came along the road. That is a joke. Just kidding. I needed some levity. Let us contemplate and take in the following which was written by Juliet Mitchell in Mad Men and Medusas:

Hate is a reaction of the need for survival – the urge to humiliate the other when one is in danger of being annihilate. Freud claimed the hysteric loves where he hates; Juliet Mitchell would argue instead that he sexualizes where he hates. It is true that love and hate do not belong to the same area of [human] experience but sexuality can belong to either love or hate. Love can turn to hate when the subject’s existence is threatened, but hate cannot turn to love. Hate is an emotional response to the need to survive in hostile conditions. It is because the need to survive comes first and foremost in any traumatic situation that hate has been described as ‘older than love.’

Love, whether for another person, an object, or for oneself, in the form of self-respect, is a positive emotion that comes about when there is no threat to our survival. Because of previous long experiences in which it has felt secure, there is every possibility that a child will love its new sibling before it arrives. This love becomes hate, however, if the threat to the ego seems too strong. In terms of relationships, love comes before hate but in terms of primacy of emotions hate is older than love. One hates when one’s survival is threatened: born helpless as we are, anything that echoes that predicament evokes hate, anything that saves us from it evokes love. The hate can end when the threat to survival is removed. Love can come in its place – but this is a new experience, it is not hate turning into love. However, when one’s love for another is suddenly exposed to the possibility that that person may annihilate one, then the love itself can turn to hate.

This is clearer if we deploy a popular distinction between love and being in love. ‘In love’, a state not considered within psychoanalytic theory, is a better term for the sexuality that is experienced as a state of being which is intoxicated over and above a bodily desire. ‘In-loveness’ can turn to hate and hate can become ‘in-loveness’. Through the character of Dmitry Karamazov in The Brothers Karamazov (1880), a novel which in addition to all else offers many masterly portrayals and accounts of hysteria, Dostoevsky describes this ‘in-love’ hate oscillation:

‘[T]o fall in love is not the same as to love. One may fall in love and still hate.’ ‘You must believe me when I tell you that never before had I looked at a woman with hatred …… with the kind of hatred from which there’s only a single hairsbreadth of distance to love, the most reckless love.’

It is not then correct that hysterics love where they hate. It is rather that hysterics sexualize hatred. To look at this process more closely, we need to involve the concept of the death drive so seriously missing from studies of hysteria. The death drive is a ‘drive’ precisely because it drives the organism towards a state of inanimacy, or inertia, to stasis or even literally death. [That would be orgasm in my opinion – ‘la petit morte‘ – French for “little death” and also the French word for orgasm.] The hypothesis of the death drive – and it is no more than a hypothesis – arose from observations which came to prominence in the First World War. It is usually argued that the death drive can only be seen when it is fused with sexual drive, for example when a person gets satisfaction from destroying and hurting either another person (sadism) or himself (masochism). What Freud called ‘a pure culture’ of the death drive may be visible in melancholia, when the person has been completely identified with a dead or lost person form the past, so much so that this person lives on in the melancholic. In fact, hysteria suggest another focus.

All drives seem to be repetitious, to go over the same ground again and again and again. [Serial dating, serial fornication, serial marriage, serial metaphoric deaths]. In so far as it relates to a trauma, the death drive compulsively repeats the apparent ‘annihilation’ of the subject: this can be witnessed in the repetition of a traumatic nightmare. As clearly, a repetition of such experiences is profoundly pleasurable, the death drive goes beyond the principle that the organism always seeks pleasure. The risk-taking, the compulsive seductions, the driven lying, the need to repeat the performance in hysteria would seem to bear witness to a need to repeat the trauma as a means of survival, but also as a drive towards death. It is as though, at the moment of threatened annihilation, the hysteric has identified with the death embodied in that moment. In his own mind the hysteric has ‘murdered’ the sibling who is so like him but then he realizes that he is the same as the murdered one.

Further manifestation of the death drive which, although it is discernible in any psychic illness, seems particularly characteristic of hysteria: the so-called negative therapeutic reaction. One of the reasons why hysteria may be thought to have disappeared this century in the West, is its resistance to cure – the doctor’s need to succeed would prefer to banish the illness than to seem to fail.

In my psychoanalytic understanding of Juliet Mitchell’s rendering of hysteria, which has contained within it Freud’s Oedipus and the psychic fixation which adheres us to our gender identities, as part of the problem with regard to the repetition drive and the mis-negotiation or misfiring of that complex . Even being heterosexual means possessing an unconscious fixed repetition drive towards re-enacting our sexualized past. Woman desiring man, man desiring woman, women desiring women, and men desiring men, all cast us down to modes of repetition based in all three drives. To reiterate Mitchell, “All drives seem to be repetitious, to go over the same ground again and again and again. In so far as it relates to a trauma, the death drive compulsively repeats the apparent ‘annihilation’ of the subject: this can be witnessed in the repetition of a traumatic nightmare.” The annihilation of mother through the sexualized theme of sexual intercourse, both vindicates the male child as worthy love Object to mother’s love, and proves his superior sexual prowess over father’s larger phallus. It is this same annihilation of mother through the sexualized theme that both vindicates the female child as worthy love Object to mother’s love, combined with her desire to possess an actual phallus and to prove superior sexual prowess of father’s larger than life phallus. That is to say, she wants to be father to mother. There is no difference where love Objects are concerned.

Now, take into consideration the creation and re-enactment of a seduction which demands an audience, also known as a conspiracy. To reiterate Juliet Mitchell, “There is unmastered pain at the center of seduction.” Likewise, what logically follows, is there is also unmastered pain at the center of a conspiracy. Something has not happened, where one cannot have what one wants and the feelings are thus too painful to introject. Questions to be asked are: What is it that the conspirator wants? What can be psychoanalytically read from the re-enactment? For example, what was taken away or what was destroyed? Was it a person’s personal identity, their reputation, was it their life, or was their physical appearance altered in some way? Was a material object destroyed or stolen? In order to uncover the psychoanalytic roots for the reason behind the behavior we first have to understand the relationship between the Object, that is, what is being destroyed or stolen, and the person doing the destroying in acting out the fantasy.

To help one understand these concepts a little better I like to pose a question. Have you ever had a fantasized wish against a competitor you knew you were out mastered by? Perhaps a classmate who was the top-notch student at the spelling bee, or perhaps it was the attractive girl or handsome boy, a love interest of yours who was a fellow classmate, who was more pre-occupied with another than yourself? Did you ever fantasize about your competitors demise? For example, a day-dream fantasy where your competitor burst completely into self-noncombustible flames. If you did, there is no need for alarm, this is considered normal as long as you don’t re-enact your fantasized destruction in the real world. These fantasy help us manage our anxiety and they can become quite playful when not acted out and shared with others who share similar feelings towards the other person. Most of us may have had fantasies such as these but ultimately we realize that we must navigate and negotiate the separation or loss, count our losses, and move on.

An example of a conspiracy of seduction can be found in the movie “How To Lose A Guy In Ten Days”. When advice columnist, Andie Anderson who is portrayed by Kate Hudson tries pushing the boundaries of what she can write about in her new piece about how to get a man to leave you in ten days. Her and her fellow co-conspirators (work associates) help her to pull off the demise. The seduction involves herself and a successful executive Ben Berry portrayed by Matthew McConaughey and the audience is her editor and boss, Lana portrayed by Bebe Neuwirth, her readers as well as her co-conspirators. There are many, many examples which can be found in movies in which a seduction of conspiracy can be found. These conspiracy, although considered amoral, may not be considered criminal or violate any laws. However, in civil law, you might be able to prosecute a case, but most people just come to a realization that ultimately they were taken in, relinquish control, count their losses and decide that the best medicine is avoidance of the parties involved and people who are like them.

But reading the movie psychoanalytically, one could ask the question, What is it that the conspirator wants? In my opinion Andie Anderson wants recognition. She wants to be noticed for her contributions to the paper and the more illicit her next topic and content there in, perhaps all the more copies of the magazine will be sold, and ultimately she might win Lana’s approval and be granted a promotion, of which she is granted at the end of the movie. This is all done without considering the feelings and emotions of the Other. The next question to be asked is, What was taken away or what was destroyed? Ultimately, it was Ben Berry’s sense of self, not so much the character he portrayed to his executive associates, but his character and sense of self to himself in front of his friends. His sense of confidence was destroyed as he was manipulated through the maze of Andie’s seductions. Andie is clearly in control and Ben is the puppet. The next question to be asked is, Was it a person’s personal identity, their reputation, was it their life, or was their physical appearance altered in some way? Clearly it is Ben’s personal sense of character that was attacked as he considered he could make any girl “fall in love with him in ten days.” Andie, in turn, pushes his buttons, crosses boundaries, and ultimately proves herself to be a tedious annoyance. Yet, Ben’s tenacious drives keep him fixated on “winning over the girl.” In the end both have succumb to the other’s love influences and both end up feeling the humiliated and impoverished with the other’s lack of presence in their life. Next question to be asked, Was a material object destroyed or stolen? In order to uncover the psychoanalytic roots for the reason behind the behavior we first have to understand the relationship between the Object, that is, what is being destroyed or stolen, and the person doing the destroying in acting out the fantasy. In my opinion, the Object being destroyed isn’t an inanimate object but a person’s sense of self. It is being destroyed out of the need to promote the destroyer’s own sense of self in claiming a form of power in a staged “reproduction” of perverse action. The reproduction is the writer’s creation of an article or news piece and the perverse act is her creation of the seduction scenario and enactment that is carried out by her and her co-conspirators. We see all three drives come in to play; the death drive, the life drive, and the sex drive.

“All’s fair in love and war.” Now that is a rather complicated phrase that would indicate that there is nothing fair in love and war. The concept behind this phrase is that some areas of life are so important and overwhelming that you cannot blame someone for acting in their own best interest. For war, this implies that spies, torture, lying, backstabbing, making deals with enemies, selling out allies, bombing civilians, and killing, and so on are all “fair game”, and too, that in a sense by taking these actions you are only hurting yourself.

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Source Reference:
Mitchell, Juliet. Mad Men and Madusas: Reclaiming Hysteria in Sibling Relationships. New York. Basic Books. (2000). pp 145-148.