Bondage, Discipline, and Sadomasochism and Sadomasochism’s Connection to Forms of Dark Personality Traits

ON PROJECTION: “Edward Glover (1936) talked about the role of projection in war. The dangers of being human, Glover said, lay not in our primitive instincts, which we share with other animals, but in our struggles to control those instincts . . . From the beginning of an awareness of the object world, love and hate, desire and murderous revenge struggle in the primitive and concrete mind of the infant, and this struggle, in one way or another, continues throughout life (Holmes, 2013).”

I watched “Secrets of a Psychopath” on the AMC Channel the other night. It was a three-part series about the murder of Elaine O’Hara in Dublin, Ireland. Elaine O’Hara was not what I would call an aesthetic model of sexual beauty. Elaine O’Hara was overweight, with not a high degree of outward beauty as the fashion industry would indicate. My first impression was that it was probably easy for someone like Graham Dwyer to dehumanize her in the way that he did, feigning a false form of practice of BDSM. I say this because there is present a very real human proclivity to degrade and dehumanize women in general. Couple this proclivity with the fact a person doesn’t fit the standard of runway beauty in fashion. People that are less sexually attractive and overweight are more “invisible” than those who possess a degree of aesthetic sexual beauty. As a result, many people perceive overweight people as “nonhuman.” Although I believe Graham Dwyer’s wife was more of a model of aesthetic beauty, a thinner blonde who kept herself in shape even after the birth of their two children. Gemma Dwyer’s uncanny resemblance to Elaine O’Hara was chilling.

PHOTE 1: Graham Dwyer and Elaine O’Hara. PHOTO 2: Gemma Dwyer (Graham Dwyer’s wife)

To watch and listen to Graham Dwyer tell Elaine that he could never love someone like her because she was “fat” and “ugly” and she “deserved to die,” was like listening to a despicable monster deceive a helpless sheep and guide them to the slaughter. Elaine O’Hara had suffered from depression and was in and out of the hospital for treatment. She had recently lost her mother and was struggling with the loss. She was very vulnerable and she wanted to be loved by Graham Dwyer. She admitted to her psychiatrist the desire to engage in sex acts that involved BDSM. She entered the online world of BDSM, creating several profiles over BDSM websites and this is where she met Graham Dwyer. Their sex play including a leather hood with mouth zipper, hand and feet bindings, and chains, face harness with a mouth ball gag, rope, and two cell phones; one labeled “Master” and the other labeled “Slave.” Graham Dwyer would not have sex with Elaine O’Hara unless stabbing her with a knife was part of the sexual intercourse. And since she told him she thought of killing herself, he made her believe it was her fault for his sadistic and perverse desire because she was the one who ignited it in him by telling him she wanted to die. He told her that “he wanted to help her die.” I believe Graham Dwyer was narcissistically oriented that in his mind he perceived her as “fat,” “ugly,” perhaps even “slovenly” and as such “deserved death.” It cannot be understated what Nitschke, Osterheider, and Marshall concluded in their 2013 paper, “we argue for the use of behavioral indicators” from the crime scene in order to garner a consensus and improved agreement across diagnosing clinicians when it comes to diagnosing forms of sexual sadism. Unfortunately, sometimes a non-consensus of opinion is arrived at and patients may be misdiagnosed.

Lucy Holmes had said ultimately people are beautiful IF we love them. Except “love” in today’s world, for the female gender, is shaped mostly by men’s unconscious fantasies that are promoted through modern medicine, business enterprise (fashion), and advancing technology. Today the subjugation of women takes a form that, though rooted in the most primitive thinking, disguises itself as “choices” or “control.” The war against women today is being fought on the battlefield of the female body, and most of the combatants are women themselves. Although hear we are speaking of the modern invention of modern medicine and fashion, I find these assaults aptly apply to the advent of advancing technological weapons. The phenomenon known as electronic targeting and electronic targeted assaults to the human female body express a form of infantile narcissism towards the maternal object utilizing advancing technological culture. The assaulted female body most aptly belongs to what Andre Green (2001) called “the dead mother.”

Men obliterate the memory of an initial dependence on a woman over which they had no control, creating a psychic murder in which the maternal representation is evacuated from the mind. However, there are inevitable problems with this psychic murder. Evacuating the maternal representation from the mind creates a void within the masculine psyche. The mother who has been declared nonexistent remains emotionally irreplaceable, and the guilt which is the consequence of the fantasized matricide fuels a rigid and defensive stance toward the female sex. Men need to subjugate women to shore up the defenses created by the problem of “the dead mother” (Holmes, 2013; Jacobs, 2007).

The concept of the dead mother is as unconsciously gratifying to a woman as it is to a man. Her attack on her own body expresses her own existential anxieties about flesh and death. She cooperates with the masculine subjugation of women because if she invests all power in men and male enterprise, she can delude herself that the powerful other will save her from mortality. Woman’s masochism is a search for recognition from another who is strong enough to bestow that recognition. Her sacrifice of authoritative command actually creates his, produces his coherent self in which he can take refuge. In losing her self, she is gaining access to a more powerful one (Holmes; 2013; Benjamin, 1988).

We all, men and women, must distance ourselves from the terror of female flesh, from the time when we were completely dependent, holding onto life by the tenuous thread of our connection with a capricious woman, from the time when we had no control, when everything was new and terrifying when we were grappling in the dark. Women must be subdued; otherwise, we are face to face with the unbearable existential fact that we came into this world helpless, dependent, and terrified and will most likely leave it in the same vulnerable state. The oppression of women and the assault on the female body is an attempt to deny the infantile terror repetition of our deepest anxieties. (For a case example, please refer to “The Secrets of a Psychopath: The murder of Elaine O’Hara”).

Harriet Basseches introduced the subject of sadomasochism at the 46th Congress of the International Psychoanalytical Association in Chicago Illinois August 1, 2009, by stating that some sadomasochism is found in every case and noting that it is found at levels of differing degrees. She noted that it may be natural to find pleasure in pain, both one’s own and others’ pain, although it may be a difference in kind when the severity of the sadomasochism functions out of the normal bounds of human expectations and becomes perverse.

Basseches recounted Freud’s implication that a child’s build-in potential for sadomasochism derives from both sexual and aggressive strivings. Shengold (1989) argues for the centrality of Freud’s (1919) anal stage of development in organizing much of character and functioning. Klein (1957) sees the infant as struggling from the outset between love and hate toward the internalized essence of the caregiver. These theoreticians note the possibility of pathological, sadomasochistically tinged outcomes.

We can certainly see how this pathological sadomasochism played a part in the murder of Elaine O’Hara by Graham Dwyer. In fact, degradation and dehumanization are closely tied to acts of sadomasochistic acts of BDSM and the sadism and masochism found in abusive husband-wife relationships. Abusers will go to great lengths to prevent their wives, husbands, girlfriends, children, and significant others from a proper existence. They may forbid the use of any make-up, make them wear their hair a certain way, dress a certain way and prevent them from performing healthy activities like exercise so they can maintain control over them. These actions are part of the technology of coercive control. “By using coercion, controllers compromise the scope of effect for immediacy. Control is comprised of structural forms of deprivation, exploitation, and command that compel obedience indirectly by monopolizing vital resources, dictating preferred choices, microregulating a partner’s behavior, limiting her options, and depriving her of supports needed to exercise her independent judgment (Stark, 2007).”

In terms of gang stalking, electronic targeting, electronic targeted assaults, and other forms of electronic harassment, what gives someone the right to preside over someone’s happiness by electronically harassing the homeowners and occupants, creating uncomfortable living conditions for them? Who has this right? And at what level is clinical or subclinical sadism operating in the personality profile and functioning of the perpetrator? We certainly see the hate being directed at the target objects. To what degree does this hate operate in the internalized essence of the person’s former caregiver? Is there a shadow of this former caregiver presiding over the psyche and conscious state of the perpetrator? That is, a darkness that co-exists within his or her conscious or unconscious state that is the re-capitulation of hate toward an abusive controlling mother/parent. (Freud, 1919; Klein, 1946–1963).

In order to understand how global sadism operates at the psychic level of a person’s personality, there have been classified three (3) categories of sadism; verbal sadismphysical sadism, and vicarious sadism. Verbal sadism involves humiliating and mocking others, whereas physical sadism addresses the desire for subjugation and enjoyment of tormenting and hurting others, and vicarious sadism taps an indirect form of sadism where pleasure is obtained through observing or fantasizing about violence (Plouffe & Saklofske, 2019). Together varying levels of these three types of sadism operate on individual levels within a person’s psyche. Some individuals display consistent forms of cohesive sadism (global sadism) while others only display minimal levels or rarely at all.

On April 13, 2021 the Justice Department released a press statement regarding a mob associate who was sentenced to four-plus years for a real estate fraud scheme. The defendant stole down payments from homes from two different families (Department of Justice, April 13, 2021). Of course, this has nothing to do with the electronic targeting of people in their homes to make life for them uncomfortable. So much so their lifestyles begin to change or they are faced with moving out of the neighborhood. But one can certainly make an association between real estate property crime and gangs and mafias. Clandestine hidden networks that operate to control territory and resources. Previous research studies have indicated the presence of certain socially undesirable characteristics and success in higher business and management positions. In one research study, it was proven that business and management students show higher scores of the Dark Triad (Machiavellian, narcissism, and psychopathy) than students from other subject areas. This supports an association to levels of sadism in these students than in students in other subject areas (Krick, Tresp, Vatter, Ludwig, Wihlenda, & Rettenberger, 2016).

A major underlying assumption of positive psychology is that we can influence our well-being through our own behavior. When people have a sense of control over their own lives, they are much more likely to experience joy, happiness, and well-being (Farnier, Shankland, Kotsou, Inigo, Rosset, and Leys, 2021). Negative psychology imposes the exact opposite by restricting one’s influence over their life through techniques of behavioral control (coercive control) which I propose gang stalking and electronic targeted assaults seek to accomplish.

The Locus of Control

The locus of control can be either internal and externalInternal locus of control reflects perceptions that reinforcements are principally caused by an individual’s behavior or personality characteristics. In contrast, the external locus of control reflects the perception that reinforcements are triggered by factors external to the individual, such as chance, fate, or other people.

“The locus of control stems from the theory of social learning, proposed by Rotter (1954). The aim of this theory was to integrate connectionist and cognitivist theories in order to better predict behavior. Connectionists are interested in the consequences of behavior (contextual factors) while cognitivists are more focused on the cognitive treatment of the information (dispositional factors). According to Rotter’s theory, the likelihood of engaging in a particular behavior in a given situation depends mainly on two factors: expectancy and reinforcement value. Reinforcement value refers to the desirability of the outcomes, while expectation refers to the subjective probability that the reinforcements (i.e., desired outcomes or rewards) will appear as a result of the behavior. Formulated differently, the expectation is the perception of a causal link between the behavior and the reinforcement (Farnier, Shankland, Kotsou, Inigo, Rosset, & Leys, 2021).”

We can take this information and apply it to how gang stalking, electronic targeting, and electronic targeted assaults all work against the psyche of the victim contributing to long-term unhappiness. Long-term gang stalking, electronic targeting, and electronic targeted assaults cause people to become ill (Sheridan, James, and Roth, 2020). This displays evidence that the perpetrators of gang stalking, electronic targeting, and electronic targeted assaults possess a degree of clinical sadism to their personality profile and maybe schizophrenic as well. Searle (1965) noted the presence of the effort to drive the other person crazy as an element of schizophrenia and that is exactly what electronic harassment seeks to accomplish and this fact hints towards the very real possibility of a disturbed or disorganized personality whose formulation may be understood through the theories of matricide. It is in all likelihood the perpetrators belong to the paranoid-schizoid personality spectrum. This position is most commonly representing in the personality profile of sadistic rapists.

Speaking on the compulsion to repeat and its metaphor in eluding death, Holmes (2013) recounted the story “The Appointment in Samarra (as retold by Somerset Maugham in 1933)” at the beginning of her book:

The Speaker is Death

There was a merchant in Baghdad who sent his servant to market to buy provisions and in a little while, the servant came back, white and trembling, and said, “Master, just now when I was in the marketplace, I was jostled by a woman in the crowd, and when I turned, I saw it was Death that jostled me. She looked at me and made a threatening gesture. Now lend me your horse, and I will ride away from this city and avoid my fate. I will go to Samarra and there Death will not find me.” The merchant lent him his horse, and the servant mounted it, and he dug his spurs in its flanks and as fast as the horse could gallop, he went. Then the merchant went down to the marketplace, and he saw me standing in the crowd, and he came to me and said “Why did you make a threatening gesture to my servant when you saw him this morning?” “That was not a threatening gesture,” I said, “it was only a start of surprise. I was astonished to see him in Baghdad, for I had an appointment with him tonight in Samarra.”

Note: I want to express the fact that gang stalking, electronic targeting, and electronic targeted assaults not only belong to theories of matricide but of parricide as well. These acts are also committed against men by other men for the most part with a small percentage of women perpetrators (Fox & Fridel, 2017).


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Secrets of a Psychopath: The murder of Elaine O’Hara (Part 3)

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Bondage and Discipline and The Making of New Markets for Commercial Consumer Fetishism in the Era of E-Stim

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For Krafft-Ebing, women are indirectly to blame for male sadism. He blamed women’s diffidence, shyness, and timidity which he believed provokes male aggression. He believed this fact was due to the inherent “natural ordering of gender” and the “natural ordering” found within its sex roles, that is, the differences between the male and female subjects. The natural design of these two human creatures created women as “modestly, coy, and subservient”, while men would enjoy “boastful, extroverted, dominant victories”. Here I question if this is not due to the fact that man, like an animal, can sniff out “weakness” and “opportunity” in another, thereby identifying avenues to exert his dominant male prowess both in the bedroom and in business? Could this be a form of an evolutionary clairsentience that promotes man’s long-term survival as a “pack animal” in matters of dominant leadership and resources?

“The task for medical sexology was to police a double boundary: between the “normal” culture of male aggression and the “abnormal” culture of sadomasochism and between “normal” female masochism and “abnormal” male masochism. The first contradiction between “natural” heterosexuality and the “unnatural perversions” was primarily managed by projecting the “perversions” onto the invented zone of race. Sexologists like Krafft-Ebing demonized sadomasochism as the psychopathology of the atavistic individual, as blood-flaw and stigma of the flesh. Sadomasochism, like other fetishisms, was figured as a regression backward in time to the “prehistory” of racial “degeneration,” existing ominously in the heart of the imperial metropolis — the degeneration of the race writ as an individual pathology of the soul.

Thus, for Krafft-Ebing, decent doses of male aggression are a fait accompli of nature. Genuine sadism, however, exists in “civilized man” only to a “weak and rather rudimentary degree.” While sadism is a natural trait of “primitive” peoples, atavistic traces of sadism in “civilized man” stem, not from the environment or social accident, but are awakened from a primordial past: “Sadism must . . . be counted among the primitive anomalies of the sexual life. It is a disturbance (a deviation) in the evolution of psychosexual processes sprouting from the soil of psychical degeneration (McClintock, 1993).”

Unbridled sadism in contrast with consensual and commercial sadomasochism reveals a difference in nature. Commercial sadomasochism is therefore considered less biologically flawed or viewed as less externalizing or internalizing the psycho-pathologies of human nature. In its presentation, it is viewed as a historical subculture that emerged in Europe alongside the imperial Enlightenment. Far from being a primordial manifestation of racial “degeneracy,” sadomasochism is a subculture organized primarily around the symbolic exercise of social risk. Indeed, the outrage of sadomasochism is precisely its hostility toward ideas involving “nature being the custodian of social power.” Sadomasochism refuses to read power as fate or destiny. And since sadomasochism is the theatrical exercise of social contradiction, it is self-consciously against nature, not in the sense that it violates natural law, but in the sense that it denies the existence of natural law in the first place. Sadomasochism performs social power as both contingent and constitutive, as sanctioned neither by fate nor by God, but by the social convention and invention, that can change and re-order relationships.

Commercial sadomasochism insists on exhibiting the “primitive” (“slave,” “baby”, “woman”) as submissive characters in a theatrical stage production. On the sadomasochism theatre stage, we observe the “primitive irrational” as a dramatic script, in a “communion of performances” that is at the heart of Western reasoning sexual deviance. The paraphernalia of sadomasochism has traditionally been boots, whips, chains, uniforms, etc. which are the paraphernalia of state power and public punishment converted into private pleasures. Sadomasochism visibly stages irrational ecstasy and the alienation of the body at the center of the theatre stage against the backdrop of a theme of hierarchy and power and the differences found in the various positions of that hierarchical power. Thus, its Western reason reveals sadomasochism’s imperial logic and domina by refusing its fate as “without power.” Sadomasochism manipulates the signs of power in order to refuse nature’s legitimate rule over the form of male biological power and the male phallus.

Feminists demonize heterosexual sadomasochism as the sanctioned exercise of male tyranny. The historical line of patriarchy parades a long history of abuses attempting to freeze power and to always make one side passive and the other side dominant. Patriarchy is, therefore, the originator of masochistic and sadistic positions. Even lesbian sadomasochism is considered by feminists a form of “self-abasement on all levels that renders wimmin unable to execute truly feminist goals. In the theories of Louise Kaplan describing lesbian homosexuality in her book “Female Perversions” she uses the term “Pinocchios” to suggest the lesbian women have not been taught in the right way of her true feminist and so, “are not real women.” That is to say, in the true and natural sense of her feminine role as heterosexual counterpart to man. The term suggests “these women are not real women” but are instead props like the marionette puppet who was in search of becoming a “real boy”, in the toy workshop of Geppetto. While I understand this perception, I do not believe that all lesbians “were not real girls” or “are not real women” for that matter. I have found many gay women contribute a lot to our world, some holding advance degrees and professional titles may be more real than some heterosexual women who “know” their positions in the hierarchy of male patriarchy. I once revealed my experiences with homosexuality and homosexual fantasy to a psychiatrist, a woman, who, possessing an advanced degree in medicine, shared Louise Kaplan’s belief. I asked her why was I having these homosexual fantasies and feelings and she said, “I believe what you are asking me has something to do with being a ‘Pinocchio’” (e.g., not a real girl/real woman). She went no further than that one sentence and then left the room. I didn’t understand her response at first, and it was only later that I came to a conclusion regarding its interpretation after reading Louise Kaplan’s “Female Perversions.” However, there is a psychoanalytic theory that suggests all girls are born bisexual and that most choose a heterosexual path (Holmes, 2008).

Of course, analyzing the practice of sadomasochism as a form of sexual slavery in lesbian relationships one can see its disguise as “sexually forcing a woman against her will.” Likewise, men who pay women money to engage in sexual play of sadomasochism and take the dominant position are paying to indulge their sadistic fantasies of sexual abuse towards women. Yet the testimony of dominatrixes reveals precisely the opposite. By far the most common service paid for by men in heterosexual sexual sadomasochism in bondage and discipline is in the position of the submissive. In fact, in most bondage and discipline in heterosexual sadomasochism, the men pay to be the “slaves”, not the women. For me, this reveals subtle, unaddressed issue regarding female sadism and female aggression and perhaps may reveal a truth when it comes to the electronic tethering of targeted individual, which has been interpreted as a “passive form of aggression”, and its connection to the statistics and trends in patterns of aggression. It is women who have to navigate the “lost phallus” in their “denial of power” and it is the women who seek out positions as dominants wielding their sexual power to subjugate men.

With regard to the electronic tethering of the human body and the human mind, I have come to a conclusion that while these electronic devices were most likely designed by men, they will undoubtedly serve women who seek avenues to play out, on a theatrical stage, the unconscious, unanalyzed fantasies of mastery and control over others, playing into recovering her lost phallus, and this play may include both men and women. In the words of one dominatrix, heterosexual bondage and discipline in sexual sadomasochism are far from being the vicious unleashing of male dominance, sadomasochism is typically the other way around. There exists only a “few” dominant men who want to indulge their sadistic fantasies of “beating” women. That in fact, it is women who want to indulge their fantasies of being phallically dominant. Of course, we could come to a conclusion that most men are probably “proper gentlemen who know how to behave and treat women” but the fact of the matter is there may be far more men willing to beat women during sex play than the evidence suggests. They just lack the financial backing to pay for and receive its entertainment. Surprisingly, it has been reported that top-level business executives and churchmen are the main solicitors for the position of “slave” in bondage and discipline in sadomasochistic sex play. They come to be punished, humiliated, frightened, and tormented to the limits of their endurance.

Sex and Electricity, Yep, it’s a thing!

In the practice of extreme pornography, the use of bondage and discipline in sexual acts of sadomasochism is a common theme. In some extreme pornography female actors as well as male actors may consent to be mildly electrocuted through the use of electric stimulation through the use of “e-stim sex toys.” Where once we witnessed the paraphernalia of sadomasochism in bondage and discipline as being traditionally boots, whips, chains, uniforms, etc. as the paraphernalia of state power and public punishments conversion into private sexual pleasures. We are now witnessing in the era of 21st-century technology a combining of the commercial consumer fetish of BDSM with the latest in e-technology (electronics, wireless electronic devices) in forms of bondage and discipline and sexual sadomasochism and its conversion onto a theatrical stage, albeit confined to the deranged mind, a hidden and clandestine use of power and dominance hidden behind a theatrical curtain. The use of electronic devices that deliver e-stim in the subjugation of powerless victims by powerful dominant.

Electroejaculation! Are you interested in knowing what it is?

Electroejaculation is a procedure used to obtain semen samples from sexually mature male mammals. The procedure is used for breeding programs and research purposes in various species, as well as in the treatment of ejaculatory dysfunction in human males. This procedure is used frequently with large mammals, particularly bulls and some domestic animals, as well as humans who have certain types of anejaculation. This is the pathological inability of a male to ejaculate despite obtaining an erection. Electroejaculation has also been used for cryo conservation of animal genetic resources where one would collect semen and keep it stored in low temperatures with the intent of conserving genetic material and future revival.

In humans, electroejaculation is usually carried out under a general anesthetic. An electric probe is inserted into the rectum adjacent to the prostate gland. The probe delivers an AC voltage, usually 12–24 volts sine wave at a frequency of 60 Hz, with a current limited to usually 500 mA, although some devices can generate currents of up to 1 A. The probe is activated for 1–2 seconds, referred to as a stimulus cycle. Ejaculation usually occurs after 2–3 stimulus cycles. Care must be taken when using currents greater than 500 mA, as tissue burns may result due to the heating of the probe. The stimulus voltage stimulates nearby nerves, resulting in contraction of the pelvic muscles and ejaculation.

In the movie “The Girl with the Dragon Tatoo”, a young woman who was sodomized anally by her rapist returns to the scene of the crime and uses an electrified cattle prod to sadistically assault the man as a form of “payback” for the wrongs committed by him.

Now, introducing new electrified sex toys and e-stim. Yes, this is just what it sounds like, sex toys that shock the skin and genitals on actual people’s bodies. Electrostimulation or e-stim via sex toys are having somewhat of a moment today. Adding an e-stim toy to certain erogenous zones can heighten sensitivity and deepen pleasurable feelings. “It gets right into those deep nerves and muscles.”

E-stim toys are toys that deliver controlled electric shock acutely, slightly sharp sparks to wherever the toy is placed on the body. They are not supposed to hurt, but rather stimulate. In the area of wireless hand-held devices, I wonder “can these e-toys be biologically implanted and controlled through remote, wireless devices? Perhaps even by a “rogue” operator? Is this what the phenomenon known as the electronically targeted individual is all about? Control of the human body, and the human mind, via remote wireless signals to stimulate/sedate (e.g., torture) a human victim?

Some men enjoy having their testicles tantalized with simulation (e.g., licking, tickling, sucking) and now the latest trend in sex toys are electronic devices that deliver, to the gonads, nipples, inner thigh, anal regions, a mild form of electrocution in the form of electronic stimulation (e-stim). Much like the cattle prods, farmers use to shock the backside of their heifers in order to direct and move them into the area they wish the livestock to be. For beginners, one source recommends the “Doc Johnson Stinger Wand.” It is also called the “Stinger Electro-Play Wand” and it retails for about $39.99 at if you’re interested in providing your “love honey” some extra stimulation. This product is recommended for beginners because it is user friendly and provides a starting point for people interested in e-stim toys. It resembles a cattle prod used by farmers except it is made of red and black plastic instead of metal.

E-stim toys aren’t just limited to external play either. There are some toys on the market that are meant to be inserted or worn and can cause muscle contractions to those specific areas (think nipples, vagina, anus).

I have been studying psychology and psychoanalysis, in particular, the internalizing and externalizing of psychopathologies. Externalizing pathologies that give rise to deviant desires, in particular bondage and discipline and sexual sadomasochism. Most recently we have witnessed the development of phenomenon called the Targeted Individual (TIs) and the electronically Targeted Individual (eTIs). Reviewing the psychoanalytic literature of primal scene fantasies based on Freudian theory, theories in matricide, and the development of commercial consumer BDSM fetish, it shouldn’t be that difficult to see how the phenomenon of the TI and the eTI are connected to the primal scene and is a by-product of hi-tech commercial consumer fetishism in combination with the commercial consumer BDSM fetish.

Source References:

Richard von Krafft-Ebing. Psychopathia Sexualis, trans. Franklin S. Klaf. New York. Stein & Day, 1965. For analyses on the discourse of perversion and sexual deviance.

Jeffrey Weeks. Against Nature: Essays on History, Sexuality, and Identity. London. Rivers Oram, 1991. For analyses on the discourse of perversion and sexual deviance.

Jonathan Dollimore. Sexual Dissidence: Augustine to Wilde, Freud to Foucault. Oxford. Clarendon, 1991. For analyses of the discourses on perversion and sexual deviance.

Mcclintock, A. (1993). Maid to Order: Commercial Fetishism and Gender Power. Social Text, p. 87–116. Published by Duke University Press.

Kaplan, Louise J. (1987). Female Perversions: The Temptations of Emma Bovary. New York. Doubleday. Translation Copy 1991 by Louise J. Kaplan.

Holmes, Lucy. (2008). The Internal Triangle: New Theories of Female Development. New York. Jason Aronson.

Engle, Gigi. (2019). These E-Stim Sex Toys Zap You With Electricity — and You Might Actually Like It.” Published online January 8, 2019. Accessed online February 12, 2021.

Electroejaculation. Accessed online February 12, 2021. “The Sexual Happiness People” Online Retailer of Sex Toys, Clothing, and Supplies. Of particular interest is their “bondage” section the “electro-medical-fetish.” Accessed February 12, 2021.

Friedersdorf, Connor. (2013). “The Ethics of Extreme Porn: Is Some Sex Wrong Even Among Consenting Adults?” The Atlantic. May 16, 2013. Accessed February 21, 2021.

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Butler, Judith. (1997). The Psychic Life of Power: Theories in Subjection. Stanford, California. Stanford University Press.

Knafo, Danielle and Feiner, Kenneth. (2006) Unconscious Fantasies and the Relational World. Hillside, NJ. The Analytic Press, Inc. Part of the “Relational Perspective Book Series” Volume 31.

Freud, Sigmund. (1924). The dissolution of the Oedipus Complex. Standard Edition. Volume 19. London: Hogarth Press.

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Gibson, M. (2020). Deceptive Sexual Relations: A Theory of Criminal Liability. Oxford Journal of Legal Studies, Advance Article,

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Sanders, Laura. (2021). Can privacy coexist with technology that reads and changes brain activity? Published online February 11, 2021. Accessed February 11, 2021.

Gilbert, Ben. (2021). Elon Musk says Neuralink implanted a chip in a monkey’s brain, and now he can play video games using his mind. Business Insider. Published online February 1, 2021. Accessed February 11, 2021.

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Perper, Joshua A., and Cina, Stephen J. (2010) When Doctors Kill: Who, Why, and How. New York. Copernicus Books.


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