Menopause and Beyond: One Daughter’s Experience With Her Aging Mother


Freud believed the elderly were incapable of benefiting anything from psychoanalysis. “Freud (1905, 264), writing about who is fit to treat, asserted that “near or above the age of fifty, the elasticity of the mental processes on which the treatment depends is, as a rule lacking. Old people are no longer educable.” (1)

In reading a case study of a ninety-four, terribly infirm woman, and contrary to Freud’s postulate, Lucy Holmes seems to think that even in extreme old age a person is capable of resolving unresolved issues of infancy and the relationship to the pre-Oedipal mother. In old age patients regress to childlike states in which they take great joy in being nurtured again. Like the pre-Oedipal infant at the nursing breast, a sense of comfort and safety can be won. However, regarding menopause and speaking from my own personal experience, I also believe some individuals regress to both childlike and adolescent states during menopause. Just as in adolescence, there is a surge of both libido and aggression in menopause. If a woman’s maternal introject is a perception of her being fat, castrated, weak, slob of a mother and this, typically speaking, would be projected onto the self in what psychoanalysts call introjective identification. But what if the daughter didn’t introjectively identify with her maternal object? It is my opinion that homosexual women, or heterosexual women who don’t identify with their maternal introjects, may not demonstrate the negative self-talk that many menopausal women do experience.

Speaking from personal experience, I see the great pleasure and joy my mother takes in humiliating me, a caregiver who, like her own mother, occasionally confronts her with difference. Her spiteful spirit is a reflection of her past experiences and character profile. It is my opinion that at one time during her childhood development she was made to feel weak, small, and powerless. During the times she seeks to humiliate me, she seems to take great joy in it. So, it is my opinion, that at these times she regresses to that childlike state where once powerless, castrated, filled with penis envy, she manages to make herself feel powerful and omnipotent by squashing the object of her humiliation and/or difference and conflict. I wrote a post called The Object Humiliator: Theory Explained where I attempt to explain this form of passive-aggressive attack.

Recently, I corrected her on one of her opinions, backing my statement up with academic, accredited, factual, collegiate information. Let me explain. She always has claimed to have idealized her mother by saying, “I would never talk that way to my mother! I respected and loved my mother because she did the best she could for me!” Of course, my mother is projectively identifying herself through this delusional image of her “perfect mother” (the “good breast” version of herself) because it has been a defensive mechanism she puts in place to elude confrontation with difference. This mechanism is put in place to help her elude the work of a deeper investigation into why the other person is confronting her with “conflict.” This mechanism also helps her to elude confronting and coming to terms with her own “bad parts” and acceptance of her imperfect self.

What my mother expects from us daughters is undying love and allegiance. That means you can’t confront her with your own difference of opinion. Your actions are expected to reflect accommodation to her wishes and desires because this makes her life easier. If it doesn’t, well, then that would be like turning your back on “the crown”. Another one of her favorite sayings is, “I’m a tit for tat kinda person.” This phrase means if you do something against me, I’m going to do something against you. An eye for an eye if you will. This is how my mother has presented herself to me over the years I have known her. Another one of her favorite phrases is, “It is what it is.” This statement is another attempt at eluding responsibility for taking action.

No one idealizes their mother that much. All mothers possess good and bad traits. Respect and love of a person come not from solely loving their idealized parts but from understanding that they are possessing both good and bad traits. We all do! And the truth is, my mother would occasionally be disrespectful to her husband, to us children, and to others who upset or wronged her in some way. This is normal. People get disgruntled about loss. People get mad. She would sometimes scream at us growing up. The truth is my mother doesn’t like being told when she is wrong. She does not want to be corrected. She doesn’t want to be yelled at and she certainly doesn’t want to waste her time trying to understand why YOU are upset. She can be psychically cut-off. Everything is expected to go smoothly in her “idealized world.” Is it because she’s too old? Is what Freud asserted true? That “near or above the age of fifty, the elasticity of the mental processes on which the treatment depends is, as a rule lacking? Old people are no longer educable?” Some psychoanalysts don’t believe so.

For my mother to carry around this delusional belief about her “perfect” idealized mother would be similar to a young woman carrying around the delusion that her fiancee is “absolutely perfect” for the rest of her married life! As the years go by, as we all know, we are all confronted with the reality that our idealized lover is in fact “not absolutely ideal.” That he has “good and bad parts” to his personality and that marriage is not a “perfect bed of roses.”

The Expulsion of Internalized Objects

During menopause, and beyond, women have to re-confront their maternal introjects. That is, their mothers. There can be a move, during menopause, and beyond, toward anger and aggression directed at our early childhood introjects. As women must confront their aging bodies, and the loss of their youth, which prepares us ultimately for the loss of control in advanced old age, it is not surprising that some may become confrontational and aggressive. This type of confrontation in women, which starts during menopause, sparks a move to try and expel the maternal introject from her body and psyche. Other psychology related to this fact are the diseases of anorexia, bulimia, and self-cutting. This expulsion of the maternal object is fueled by aggression and is part of the regression of the infantile position, the anal-sadistic fantasies that Freud described and since our early childhood introjects are the first objects that confronted us with difference, it’s not surprising that aggression should be locked-up with these experiences.

The overriding theme of female development has been the internalization of and identification with objects in one’s early childhood relational world. How we unconsciously identify with these objects may remain hidden from us, but through careful inspection and analysis, we can uncover what these objects represent to us. For example, my analysis of my mother taking great joy in humiliating me perhaps is, in part, due to her hidden identification with me which has become less about me being her daughter and more to do with me being a projection of her husband, my father. I look like my father. I even identified with my father growing up more so than my mother in my early development. My father was the first generation born of an Italian immigrant family and, like him, I have dark Italian features. The parts of me which represent her difference, are the parts of me that she might find repulsive; lack of allegiance, desire for independence, youthful age, academic knowledge, remembrances of humiliations she endured from my father during their marriage, may all be hidden and unconscious to her.

Of course, at the root of all this difference are the internalized identifications with our original objects – the Mother, Father, Self triangulation. However, Juliette Mitchell bought sibling lateral relationships into the fray with her book “Madmen and Medusas: Reclaiming hysteria.” My mother was one of six siblings. One of her siblings, my aunt, disclosed to me when I was a young pre-adolescent girl that when my mother was little she would “beat her.” “Oh, I beat her ass!” she proclaimed. I often wondered if these “beatings” my mother endured in childhood were the result of her psychic splitting. I found this woman to be totally repulsive as she took great joy and laughter in telling me the story of her indiscretions against my young mother. How could I forget the way she licked her dentures, after consuming a meal at our table, placing her teeth right there for all of us to see, lite a cigarette, and relaxed back in the chair. Horrible etiquette!! Now, I wish I could go back and ask her what made my mother deserve such harsh discipline?

My final thought is this if female development has been the internalization of and identification with objects from our early childhood relational world, and if during menopause a woman attempts to expel her mother from her body and psyche, how does this relate to, and what does this say about women who wish to humiliate the female objects in their relational world by making them that fat, castrated, weak, slob of a mother through the process of projective identification? Are these desires to humiliate not tied to the infantile world of anal sadistic fantasy? Could not some of the sexually deviant fetishes of Body Inflation Fantasies be rooted in humiliating this maternal Object Other? To consider deviance related to forms of this sexual fetish please click on the link below. Video may contain sexually explicit images. Viewer discretion is advised.

Source Reference:

(1) Lucy Holmes. (2008) The Internal Triangle: Theories in Female Development. New York. Jason Aronson.

In The Analysis of Perversion

Miriam Lenk - Cumulus
Cumulus by Mariam Lenk. I use this image a lot in my writings because it has become a representation of the visual metaphor associated to Karen Horney’s (1932) classical essay “The Dread of Women” when she critiqued the poem “The Diver.” In this particular poem, Schiller writes about the overwhelming sense of dread he feels about a woman as he expresses fears of being “done in” by this powerful presence. Schiller’s internal fear made metaphor by the oceanic deep, that great maternal abyss, that he might be done in by an overwhelming powering female presence. It is this same fear held by the paranoid-schizoid, those adhering to white supremacy issues and the narcissistic personality that is most likely to fear the ethnic, cultural, sexual, religious, homosexual, gendered personhoods of others. In attempting to manipulate personality, it is the paranoid-schizoid who fears the lack of control and what that might mean to their believed cultural purity. (see associated hyperlink at the end of this post)

“Thus narcissism, which is the stage of development in which the Ego furnishes itself with its own ideal, gives way to the object relation. The Ego is led to break with a part of its narcissism by projecting this form of an Ego Ideal. From this point onwards, there will be a gap, a rift between the Ego and its Ideal.” (1)

All perversions are the creative solution to a problem. The perverse method of man’s over-consuming resources has long been a questioned behavior. Questioned to its sustainability and questioned as a problem to the preservation of resources that threaten the life of the planet. To insatiably over-purchase products and over-consume fuels, water, food, buying items when one has already acquired an adequate store is a form of a perversion. To insatiable desires of infliction of pain and suffering onto others is yet another creative perversion that seeks a solution to a problem. We see this type of behavior as a consistently repeated personality character trait in those individuals who bully others into submission. The technology of coercive control and the use of electromagnetic frequency stimulation to assume a “power over” Other is the form bullying takes. Likewise, the over-consumption of food and drink is a perversion and like all perversions, it is the creative solution to a problem.

Before I begin I would like to say that I never had morbid obesity problems while growing up nor in adolescence and young adulthood. I might have thought of my self “fat” when I was only maybe about 10-15 lbs overweight. There is a difference in the perverse solution strategy of morbidly obese children that over-consume food than that of a non-morbidly obese child. Right here is a clue to the “difference” in the perverse scenario and the personality profile involved by the paranoid-schizoid, the personality profile that is acting out the perverse solution. I will detail two very different perversions that differ significantly from each other. One is the narcissistic ego of female body image with an eating disorder and her perversion of homosexuality. The second, is in the paranoid schizoid’s fear of “difference” of Others, that is, another person in his or her object-relational world finds an Object threatening, fearful or maybe possess feelings of “ambivalence” towards it.

The use of electromagnetic weapons, the induction of pain and suffering through the use of electromagnetic frequency stimulation (Electroconvulsive Shock Therapy) upon people as they walk freely about their lives is a form of torture. This act creates a rupture in the person’s life, who previously enjoyed peaceful enjoyment to their lives, and whenever there is a rupture in the course of a man’s life he seeks to repair the gaping wound by stitching parts of his reality together to try and come to a solution to repair the problem he is experiencing in his life. We see the employment of perverse solutions in stitching the narcissistic wound together in many cases of trauma. My creative perversion was in the creative solution to use alcohol and food to relieve pain and suffering so as to enjoy pleasure and relief from painful torture. This led to the onset of my weight gain and inhibited me from physical work activities. As a result of this electromagnetic frequency stimulation, I suffered headaches, disorientation, dizziness, fatigue. Some might argue that these symptoms are the very side-effects of alcohol use, however, alcohol dissipates in the human body at a known rate. If I drank 4 beers or even 4 shots at 3:00 pm and then upon waking at 7:00 am the next day, the alcohol should have already dissipated from my body and the side-effects all ready gone.

When it comes to creative perversions Freud called them the “ingenious solutions” to a problem. Of course, he was talking about the child who comes to realize the sexual prohibition placed upon him which gives rise to fetishized motifs of sexual deviance like homosexuality, transvestism, and masturbation. Perversions are an important process used by the pervert in his relationship to reality. As Chassguet-Smirgel had stated in Creativity and Perversion “all of us are open to the perverse solution which constitutes a balm for our wounded narcissism and a means of dissipating our feelings of smallness and inadequacy. This temptation can lead to our losing the love for truth and replacing it with a taste for sham.” (1) By concentrating on the way in which the pervert gets around the inescapable nature of his or her human destiny, one will come to an understanding of the multitude of ways in which a perversion can be carried out. Let me first be clear on the subject of homosexual perversions, that of an androgynous female who may dress masculine but looks feminine. This is a fetishized motif that “constitutes a means of eluding the fatal character[s] of the Oedipus Complex. The alternative of either losing one’s penis or renouncing the incestuous wish is skipped, conjured away, so to speak, by the “ingenious solution” that constitutes the perversion.” (1) I would like to further quote from Creativity and Perversion:

“[Freud] says that in the case of a ‘normal’ neurotic person the masturbational activity usually ceases, this activity being connected with unconscious incestuous fantasies taking the mother as object. The child renounces the instinctual satisfaction in order to preserve his penis, internalizes the incest prohibition and prohibitions in general, and establishes a seat of morality within himself, namely the Superego. The young boy in Freud’s example found another way out. He created a fetish which, according to Freud, is a substitute for the mother’s missing penis. This allows him to disavow the reality of castration. Thus he saves his penis and preserves his instinctual satisfaction at the same time. The masturbational activity does not cease.” (1)

One is the narcissistic ego of female body image with an eating disorder and her perversion of homosexuality.”

I believe this mechanism works the same way for a young girl, who feeling castrated by the mother, and at the same time castrated by pin-up girl in her uncle’s hot-rod garage at the age of about 7. Feelings of defeat, smallness, and inadequacy ensued as I realized I was not my uncle’s “best girl.” It is important to recognize that during this time period runway models were promoted as deathly thin or underweight. The influence of mainstream advertisements and media cannot be discounted as an influencing element to my body dysmorphia.

In my case, I believe both negative experiences were at play in the creative solutions employed by my psyche. Heterosexual fantasies ensued and it wasn’t until a homosexual experience in adolescence following the upset of puberty with another girl that homosexual fantasies would be incorporated into my sexual identity. A sexual experience in which I discovered I could recuperate the lost territory of pre-oedipal pleasure and restore feelings that were the result of feeling insufficiently small and inadequate. Today, when confronted with omnipotent controlling females, I may find myself suffering fantasies of homosexuality in a sexually perverse act that incorporated “the conquering of a “power over other.” That is, assuming the phallic male position in coitus. Since feelings of rejection ensued after my mother told me the story about how my twin sister and I were unwanted children. She recounted a story that conveyed a wish for abortion but no way to actually receive one. This story in combination with issues of neglect and poverty, I believe, may have also played into my creatively perverse solutions. But, in my opinion, I believe this may have begun some of the seeds needed to process some of my most “ingenious solutions”; my creative perversions as you will. In a wish to possess my own penis, and following a bout of hysteria in 2003 in which I lost an excessive amount of weight, I evolved into a fetishized motif for androgynous female/phallic female. This would become my desired Ego Ideal in adult life. My way out of the internalized prohibition of not identifying with mother from maternal rejection, a rejection that would make me feel small and inadequate. This manifested as an eating disorder by refusing eating, change, and growth. Although it was bulimia it was over the incorporation of food followed by purging, which some feminist psychoanalysts perceive as “the purging of toxic mother’s milk.” So an obsession with body weight and image ensued in my adolescence and just for the record my mother was a morbidly obese adult female. Whether her imago had something to do with the introjection and wished for death of feminine attributes of my body image may or may not be connected. Rejection of the changes in the growth of fat cells in the hips, bust, and buttocks and how, in the Ego Ideal of my mind, this image did not compare to the “pin-up girls” body in my distorted perceptions of female body image I believe was the result of wanting to possess my own phallus which was a rejection of the feminine curvey shape of bodacious female which did not coincide with the Ego Ideal of phallic male. I think that focus on fat growth and body changes and the desire to remain a prepubescent girl of androgyny may play into the perverse solution. The identification in the Oedipal arrangement was with my father, not my mother. This is the INTROJECTION of reality that gives rise to female sexual perversion.

The second, is in the paranoid schizoid’s fear of “difference” of Others, that is, another person in his or her object-relational world finds an Object threatening, fearful or maybe possess feelings of “ambivalence” towards it.

In this perverse solution, the fear felt from this threatening Object becomes a PROJECTION. That is, the fear is projected out on to Other in violent aggression or passive-aggressive manipulation. The threatening object is “dealt with” in a perverse fashion. In the technology of coercive control there are “tools” the batterer/controller uses to manipulate and/or exploit his victims. These “tools” are a gender strategy patterned in a self-interested way by socially identifiable groups who mobilize scarce resources in order to pursue major life goals. (2) Entrapment of individuals, predominantly women especially in immigrant groups, through the use of routine violence or passive-aggressive manipulation defined in terms of physical assaults by a battering partner, intimidation, active and passive threats, “Gaslight” games, surveillance, stalking, microsurveillance, degradation and humiliation, shaming, isolation from family and friends, perspecticide, isolation from help, access to necessities, and micromanagement of everyday life. Creating fear, isolation, obedience, or subjugation through nonviolent means is even more complicated and requires an acute sensitivity to personal and situational nuances for which there is no ready template. (2) Researcher suggests there is a correlation between aggressive violence and executive functioning which might be linked to learning disabilities. In the journal article entitled “Brain Health and the Batterer” by Christine C. Kwiatkowski, Alfred J. Robison, and April M. Zeoli it states:

Research examining biological correlates of IPV advances our understanding of partner abuse as more than a problem in conflict resolution related to various neuropsychological deficits. Although deficits in executive function undoubtedly contribute to the manifestation of IPV, there are still those who batter without the presence of any such risk, suggesting that there are other factors driving IPV behavior. Other research examining the biological correlates of IPV implicates head injury and genetics as well as perturbations in physiological arousal, neurotransmission, and endocrine function as potential risk factors for IPV (Pinto et al. 2010). These factors highlight differences in behavioral reactivity and how an individual might be biologically primed to engage in violence. One notable omission, however, is the discussion of the neural reward systems and how they may influence IPV behavior.

In general, IPV can be viewed as a goal-directed behavioral strategy to maintain status and power in a relationship. For example, an abusive partner may feel threatened during an argument or wish to control a relationship and use force to elicit compliance from an intimate. This explanation frames IPV as a motivated behavior with rewarding properties that can be reinforced over repeated events. Animal, or preclinical, research suggests that there are indeed rewarding aspects to successful aggression that drive behavioral choice to increase the likelihood of future aggression. Importantly, this motivation for aggression is controlled by the reward circuitry in the brain. This research, although in its early stages, has implications for the study of IPV, especially in light of recent findings in human research that show changes in the reward circuitry of generally violent individuals. As such, the rewarding properties of aggressive behavior and future directions are discussed.” (3)

The orchestration of many organized criminal acts has “dealt with” threatening Objects the criminal experiences as frightening and threatening in a very aggressively violent way. The term for this mode of behavior has been termed “mafia mentality“, the same type of mentality that organized gangs use in neighborhoods to establish and maintain dominance. The Marquis de Sade gave us the first glimpse of the paranoia felt when “difference” and “conflict” are experienced as threatening. I would like to quote from Creativity and Perversion again:

It is clear that, for Sade, incest is in no way connected with assuaging deep longing for the Oedipal object, but is linked with the abolition of “children” and “parents” as a category. Expressed in more general terms, the pleasure connected with transgression is sustained by the fantasy that – in breaking down the barriers which separate man from woman, child from adult, mother from son, daughter from father, brother from sister, the erotogenic zones from each other, and, in the case of murder, the molecules in the body from each other – it has destroyed reality, thereby creating a new one, that of the anal universe where all differences are abolished.” (1)

The perverse solution of the batterer/controller becomes the creative solution to his or her “problem” which usually involves “difference” and “conflict.” The omnipotent will of the controller will not be obeyed and as such the dissenting Subject/victim must be “dealt with” in a fashion that resembles the anal-sadistic universe of the Marquis de Sade. And where the INTROJECTION of the perverse solution into the Ego aims at stitching the two gaping sides of the narcissistic wound which henceforth becomes its character, the PROJECTION of violence onto Other that is a stable characteristic of a batterer/controller’s personality profile which seeks to establish “new realities” in which “difference” and “conflict” are no longer experienced is created. That is, the categories and conflict/difference that define the “Self” from “Other” is obliterated. This is yet another form the creatively perverse solution assumes in the world of the anal-sadistic.

In the course of human relations, one is confronted with difference and conflict all the time. As “civilized” humans we are expected to problem solve for the difference and conflict in civilized constructive ways. When we encounter differences and conflicts that set-off part of our problem-solving skill set, the most crucial skill is in the ability to introject another person’s personal ideas. If a person is foreclosed against pondering the real possibilities of someone else’s Truth and Reality, then these individuals become forever adhered to their own repetition behaviors. These are the elements that establish identity and personality profiles. The violent psychotic is the forclosed psychotic.

From Plato’s Cave, Matricide, and Reading Silence To Plato’s “Imaginary” Ship of Fools That Led To The Great Confinement (PART II) Updated July 5, 2019

Source References:
(1) Janine Chasseguet-Smirgel. (1985) Creativity and Perversion. New York. W.W. Norton & Company.

(2) Evan Stark. (2007) Coercive Control: The entrapment of women in personal life. New York. Oxford University Press.

(3) Christine C. Kwiatkowski, Alfred J. Robison, and April M. Zeoli. “Brain Health and the Batterer.” Violence and Gender. Vol. 5, No. 4. Retrieved online April 24, 2019. Published Online:3 Dec 2018

Addressing Christopher Bollas’ Unthought Known and The Art of Reading Silence (Revised)

“The Shadow of the Object” Artwork by T. Noble and S. Webster entitled “Miss Understood Mr. Meanor”

“Dickinson’s “Tell all the Truth but tell it slant” speaks for writers who in every century have been inhibited both by economic dependence and by the knowledge that the true writer signifies assertion while true woman signifies submission.” (1)

“Woman,” the symbolic figure of classical myth, possessor of gifts and nurturer to souls, has been oppressed for centuries until movements initiated at the end of the nineteenth century would change woman’s choices and opportunities. Change began on a large social scale with various movements initiating social progress, a much needed social evolution toward true equality and civility. Although women began to see change at a social level, women still struggle in their personal lives against the forces of coercive control by abusive men, and a number of woman, who remain paranoid against the maternal symbolic.

Psychoanalyst Christopher Bollas coined the term “unthought known” to represent those experiences known in some way to the individual, but also about that which the individual is unable to process consciously. At it’s most compelling, the unthought known refers to preverbal, unschematised early experience/trauma that determine behavior unconsciously, barred from conscious thought. (2) To explain how one feels compelled to perform a behavior but unable to think more deeply and consciously why one desires to perform that behavior.

I want to draw a parallel here to my experience with cyberstalking and electromagnetic frequency stimulation (torture/targeting) using the imaginary symbolism and Bollas’ unthought known displayed in repetitive drives of psychosis which have been expressed in classical mythical symbolism, classical literature, poetry and classical philosophy and explained by psychoanalysis, and also how coercive control is used to manipulate victims and conceal itself through deceptive (intimidation, fear, gaslighting and the unseen world of physics) by the controller.

First, the use of cyberstalking and electromagnetic frequency torture/targeting registers victimization in the imaginary realm of the mythical, that is the world of the unseen where speech/text is concealed in metaphor/symbolism. In psychoanalysis we use classical myths to help us interpret silence rendered through the symbolic. The silence, or unspoken text, reveals itself to the analyst and the analsand much like Christopher Bollas’ “unthought known.” Those behaviors and drives that shape our repetitive behaviors acquired before the formation of language or those experience which may be repressed because they are too painful for the subject to process.

When I first began experiencing the torture of electromagnetic frequency waves/signals to my body, it was like language or the ability to articulate what was happening to me had been stolen. It was because of these invisible electro-magnetic frequency signals, that the untouchable “touching” me through the unseen world of physics that I could only at first draw or paint what was happening to me. Christopher Bollas writes,

“Ever since I began clinical work with autistic and schizophrenic children, I have been interested in understanding the representation of one’s being through object relations as well as narrative content. The autistic child cannot tell you how he feels or what his psyche is made of; he can only show you, and this he does quite well if the clinician is willing to be used as an object and to be guided via his own internal world through the subject’s memory of his object relations.”(2)

Was some one trying to make me appear “autistic?” Like Lisa Ostriker documented in “The Thieves of Language: Women Poets and Revisionist Mythmaking” the female’s literature of the women’s movement in history displayed a wish to breakdown the patriarchy hegemony. She wrote,

“When Elaine Marks surveys the ecriture feminine movement in Paris, she observes that in their manifestos of desire “to destroy the male hegemony” over language, “the rage is all the more intense because the writers see themselves as prisoners of the discourse they despise.” (pg. 69) (1)

With the advancement of new technologies, wireless communications, lap-top computers, smartphones, devices that share real time location, along with the development of implanted devices that deliver electromagnetic frequency stimulation and respond to magnetic fields in an attempt to manage or cure disease, the high-jacking of a person’s central nervous system is not at all far fetched. The high-jacking of a person’s central nervous system, which attempts to re-appropriate language and behavior to the usurper/controller. This attempt acts much like the targeting and grooming used by predators on college campuses to appropriate sex for young men from young women. Except in this scenario, these predators/controllers use drugs and alcohol to alter the conscious state of the women being targeted. One could say it is the technology in which “predators/controller make their art speak for themselves.” This is the technology of coercive control used from the point of psychiatric healthcare to domestic violence right down to human torture standpoints. I believe Michel Foucault was trying to explain the subtle use of power when he wrote The Subject and Power.

“…..controllers take any deviation from routine or expectations, any mistake or accident, as a sign of disloyalty. As missteps accumulate, some victims lose their sense of efficacy entirely, the feeling that what they do makes a difference or could do so…..” (pg. 280) (3)

This technology is the reason why it has taken me so long to actually articulate what was happening to me. Upon first articulation, all I could do was draw and expression, then I attempted to paint the expression. The controller holds in their hand the power to disable me intellectually. My brother, a former NSA analyst, once responded to me after I told him, “Your learned college and personal experience can never be taken from you. The ability to know what you know from your past experience and collegiate learning is always yours and belongs to nobody else.” He responded, “Yes they can.” At first I didn’t understand what he was talking about but, I now know he was talking about perspecticide.

Perhaps the most dangerous aspect of abuse is something called Perspecticide. Perspecticide is disabling a person from knowing what they already know. (pg. 267)(3) This is done in a number of ways. One way is through intimidation, fear and gas lighting. More recently, the use of electronic implants that respond to magnetic fields such as GPS tracking and radio waves transmissions are being used to make cyber warfare even more lethal than previously known. If you think about how rapidly advanced technology was disseminated over a small period of time with computers, cell phones and other electronic devices that share real time location with others, video surveillance of home and office that stream in real time across devices locations of targets, implants that work off of electromagnetic frequency, it is not impossible to imagine how one might successfully target, torture, abuse, and shorten the life of a targeted subject. At the root of all this clandestine operation is an insatiable desire to control the target. Control of a target subject for financial gain, or the appropriation of services, or just for the sheer enjoyment of humiliating a victim. (4)

By 1997, many households were equipped with a home computer. By 2003 many people had mobile cellular telephones and by 2006 onward the first generation of smartphones and android phones were being introduced to the public. These devices would revolutionalize how we work, play, and live. It also revolutionalized how crime operates in a world suffering from socio-economic inequality.

“The majority of mass murderers are person’s with paranoid personality configuration (including at the more severe end, paranoid schizophrenia) – typically associated with a deep sense of disgruntlement and unfairness.” ~Michael H. Stone, MD (5)

The electronic targeting of individuals for the purpose of destabilizing, dismantling, or rendering them “inoperative” so that the competition is unfairly stacked in the perpetrator’s/controller’s direction are plentiful. In finance, the stock market, and real estate, federal cases of theft abound across the nation! Individuals stealing large sums of money from former employees, banks, clients, the use Ponzi schemes, wire fraud and money laundering are constantly being reported by the US Department of Justice as well as a host of other crimes including cyberstalking, murder, trafficking drugs and sex workers, and gang/mafia activity.

In On Matricide, Chapter 9, “Who’s Afraid of Clytmenstra?” Jacobs writes,

“Orestes’ sword is revealed as a vulnerable instrument that can neither satisfy nor kill/defend against the primitive mother of his early infancy. It is as if the breast is laughing at him, mocking his grandiose charade with his wavering sword, inducing the most intense sense of shame and inadequacy (leading to impotence) and invoking the profound inequality between baby and mother [between Subject and Object] that underlies the phantasy of phallic power/domination ….Clytemenstra’s breast can just as much signify a maternal jouissance whose enigmatic pleasure activates the most primitive envy and fear in Orestes: envy of the mother’s breast, her creativity and generative power, fear of being castrated and swallowed up into the dreaded first home.” (pg. 115) (6)

Here Jacobs describes in mythical analysis the paranoid state that drives Bollas’ “unthought known” and many unconscious fantasies and repetition drives. Man’s first interactions with his Object relational world is at the mother’s breast, the preoedipal phase, preverbal experience that may determine one’s unconscious fantasies and future behavior. After to which follows the Oedipal experience surrounding the experience of loss and separation from the maternal love Object.

In the psychoanalysis of the female body, a choice percentage of women view pregnancy as humiliating. Some feminists even view it as just another way male patriarchy enslaves women by appropriate and monopolizing her gifts and services for masculine agendas. Julia Kristeva writes in “Stabat Mater,”

“When feminists call for a new representation of femininity, they seem to identify maternity with this idealized misapprehension: and feminism, because it rejects this image and its abuses, sidesteps the real experience that this fantasy obscures. As a result, maternity is repudiated or denied by some avant-garde feminists, while its traditionally representations are wittingly or unwittingly accepted by the “broad mass” of women and men.” (pg. 134)(7)

Some women even need extensive psychoanalysis before embarking on the journey of motherhood, so frightening is this experience not only because of its disfigurement but because it could, at its worst, end in death. (8) Because of this fact, some psychotic female’s may possess fantasies involving images of women they despise being denigrated by bodily disfigurement such as pregnancy. It is my belief that some women who engage in the sexual deviant practice of inflation fantasies may possess such psychotic fantasies and derive enjoyment watching, as this form of the maternal symbolic is carried out on a female canvas through immobilizing the subject by constricting movement due to over inflation wearing a rubber suit that feeds compressed air into it. (pg.95-105) (9)

“This confusion seems to be due not only to the fantasies of oral incorporation leading to introjective identification, but at the same time to impulses and fantasies in the patient of entering inside the object with the whole or parts of his self, leading to projective identification.” (Rosenfeld, 1952) (10)

These kind of fantasies are typically seen in male paranoia over the female symbolic order and we can look to the sexual deviance of BDSM fantasies with “Doms” and “Subs.” Devices that deliver electromagnetic frequency signals/torture may be appropriated by some female psychopath or male psychopaths as a way to further denigrate and humiliate their victims by inducing reduced mobility and increased bodily disfigurement.

“While Klein made it clear that normal and neurotic individuals would developmentally attempt to remain identified with the good, gratifying breast, while expelling or projecting the frustrations associated with the bad absent one, she also left considerable room for her students to fill out what the subjective experience might be like for the psychotic disorders.”(10)

One might ask the question what is the subterranean current flowing under this male-oriented expression of dominance (this negative language) of cyberstalking and targeting with electromagnetic frequency? What is its “mother tongue?” What lays at the root of this negativity? The same mechanisms that signify the intense sense of shame and inadequacy in the male during Oedipus also work in the same way for the female, which may initiate a paranoid state of delusional fear over another with the perceived loss of one’s own power. “In her hypotheses about the early stages of normal ego development, Klein posited that the projection of the infant’s early oral-sadistic and often destructive attacks on the breast resulted in the introjection of persecutory fears – and in the case of the psychotic disorders, there was an infinite dialectical potentiality for the processes to cycle and recyle in a most self-destructive fashion.” (10)

In the section “Speaking Silence” in the “Philosophy and the Maternal Body: Reading Silence,” Julia Kristeva names the problem:

“a woman has nothing to laugh about when the symbolic order collapses. She can enjoy it if, identifying with the mother’s vaginated body, she imagines herself thus to be the sublime repressed which returns in the fissures of the order. She can also easily die of it …. if, without successful maternal identification, the symbolic paternal order were her only tie to life.” (pg. 123) (7)

Here the mother tongue or negative language can be understood in terms of how the parents relate both to each other and to the child. Negative language is expressed through the symbolic. A female child rejecting the maternal order may dress androgynous or in full-masculine style. We can read this silence as a rejection of her gender orientation at birth. Likewise, we can read the silence of a male who, rejecting his masculinity, dresses in women’s clothing and presents his identity as the feminine. Thus, devices like wireless electromagnetic communications that deliver frequency signals, signals that can high-jack the central nervous system into silencing and muting the symbolic order, feminine verbal expression of an individual can be used for malevolent instead of benevolent means. Women and men who, for the purpose of having children and spouse, project an image of “the perfect family” with perfectly obedient children and a “trophy wife” or “trophy husband” may be identifying with the “good breast” and hiding elements of negative language. Nothing is that perfect. They may work hard to ward off anxiety tied to the ambivalent frustrating breast, that negative experience from childhood which can conceal itself so perfectly behind a neatly pressed military uniform or “perfect life.” Most of the time these behaviors are, for the most part, non-lethal and non-destructive but they can manifest as paranoid state against “inferior” or images that represent “the bad breast.” Desires, wishes, or fantasies to harness power over or possess these objects in order to eradicate them as part of their own manifesto. This is the narcissistic condition and paranoid personality represented over and over, time and again in American culture. We can also understand it as the projective identification in the psychoanalysis of psychotic states.

What lies at the root of the symbolic silencing of speech? The artist appropriates language to make it “speak” for his experience. That is, “he make it speak for himself.” If he cannot articulate it in text he must articulate it symbolically with his paint brushes. Thus if a man cannot appropriate the female of his choosing for himself, he must appropriate her symbolically through the imaginary – through the unseen world of imaginary symbolism where he positions himself aloft, like a God reigning over his children. This is the new age of iGen crime. It mimics the same old social divisions, that torn fabric of the social order based in male loss, symbolically remanifesting itself as violent male dominance; as God smiting the disobedient slave. Reiterated time, and time again through the violations of personal boundaries and private spaces, but this time at a distance so carefully veiled and concealed as to keep one’s hands so very neatly clean. Think of the lightening bolt cast down from the sky. The wrath of an angry God whose followers failed to worship him appropriately. Thus, the dominant exert their phallic dominance over “inferior” Subjects who have failed to come under his/her self-entitled subjective authority.

Thus, the victims question there experiences. Are these assaults imaginary? They are a part of the unseen order of things, much like Bollas “unthought known.” Or, are they real? Feeling the sway of a magnetic field as it passes through your body or the field latching on to you has a very distinct resemblance to an earlier experience from many a childhood. Anyone caught in the current or force of an ocean wave or river rapid knows its sway.

Understanding the specifics that make up the physics of magnetic fields, moving charges and electrical currents. All moving charged particles produce magnetic fields. Moving point charges, such as electrons, produce complicated but well known magnetic fields that depend on the charge, velocity, and acceleration of the particles. Neuroscientists studying pulsed electromagnetic physics state that the human brain can easily withstand EMP up to 100k/Vm without detrimental effect. But a small nuclear weapon generates 100k/Vm, so these weapons shouldn’t hurt us? Right? (11) Pulsed electromagnetic treatments are carried out in controlled settings, inside hospital facilities with medical staff present during the procedures. They are not suppose to be carried out while one walks about the privacy of their own home, the outside world, nor when one operates or drives their vehicle.

Like in the Matusiewicz’s case, a negative campaign against a target preceded the murder of Ms. Christine Belford. A negative campaign that utilized the Internet, the mail, and third parties (accomplices) to target and harass the victim. A negative campaign that utilized the negative language of projective identification of psychotic states. (3)

Source References:
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(9) Gates, Katherine. Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex. New York. Juno Books. (2000).
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(11) Multanen J, Hakkinen A, Heikkinen P, Kautiainen H, Mustalampi S, Ylinen J. “Pulsed electromagnetic field therapy in the treatment of pain and other symptoms in fibromyalgia: A randomized controlled study.” Bioelectromagnetics. July 2018, 39(4), 405-413. Retrieved from US National Library of Medicine National Institute of Health

Deviant Desires: The Fetish Fantasy of Body Inflation and Expansion

Art Sculpting “Cumulus” by Mariam Lenk

Art Sculpting “Cumulus” By Mariam Lenk

Think of the Eddie Murphy remake of The Nutty Professor – where the scientist explodes out of his clothing when the effects of his “slimming potion” wear off – and you get the picture.

Body inflation is actually a catch-all category of fantasies covering a range of subgroups devoted to specific body parts: bellies, boobs, butts, hips, etc. The most popular sub-genre is breast expansion, and enthusiast of this scenario call themselves “BE” fans. The typical BE fantasy might feature a woman tied up to an air compressor that inflates her breasts to impossible proportions – the pneumatic chest bought to a whole new level. The “B2E” category covers folks who like a combination of breast and belly expansion or breast and butt expansion. They might imagine a gypsy cursing a women so that the more sexually aroused she gets the bigger belly grows, or they might fantasize that some mysterious

potion transforms a woman into an immense Venus of Willendorf fertility figure. Body

Venus of Willendorf (24000 BCE)

inflation also covers rubber fetishists who like to inflate their clothing like balloons. Another small but rapidly growing crowd enjoy penis expansion fantasies – as you might expect, these mostly attract gay men and straight women. I found one vagina enlargement fantasy, apparently written by a female. Obviously, all of these scenarios have the same magical growth appeal as a looner, men and women with balloon fetishes who find erotic arousal in blowing up a balloon, except here the body part is literal rather than metaphorical. There are also other body parts that are not generally the focus of sexual fantasies that become the erotic focus of inflation like noses, that is, nose growth fantasies. One guy devoted an entire web page to female nose growth fantasies – sort of the female version of Pinocchio.

You might assume that breast expansion fans are aroused by women with breast implants, but that’s just not the case. What gets these people off are seeing the transformation happen in front of there very eyes. If you think about the jaw dropping disbelief when a famous actress re-appears in the public significantly larger than she was before then you might be able to imagine, at a glimpse, the sensational wonder of body inflation fantasies. Immediately I think of Kristy Alley and other stars who re-appeared in the lime light as plus size woman. However, unlike the elements of erotic asphyxiation found in Big Beautiful Women squashing men, these fetishes seem to be tied to the erotic arousal surrounding the motion of movement, specifically the motion of expansion. The narrative drama is the change into something unexpected or uncanny that evokes suspense or disbelief in a state of childlike wonder. Not only are medical procedures a turn off – the messy meat reality of surgery is a definite no-no, they generally just don’t go far enough, fast enough. Thus, the transformation of a female into an inflatable love doll evokes erotic arousal and body inflation scenarios often incorporate notions of bondage, Dominance & Submission. Some plots are about control and forcible inflation, where a woman is tied to a pump and transformed against her will. The fantasy of a dominatrix using magic or science to transform a slave into a living blow-up sex doll. “Not only would she be immobile, but her fun parts would be larger and more sensitive!” The thrill is in imagining how helpless the woman feels at this strange thing happening to her body. Some stories incorporate fantasies of vengeance, with hackneyed plots about nerdy guys inventing secret spy formulas to get back at their ex-girlfriends. On the hand, very few body inflation fans enjoy the idea that the expanding body renders the woman more powerful and potent.

Sexual fantasies realized exclusively through make-believe and cinematic special effects that is both quaintly childish and totally contemporary. For body inflation fans, the apex of pornography could be a Disney kid’s movie or a Hollywood screwball comedy – as long as it features people with body parts that suddenly inflate to monstrous size. One such kid’s movie is Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory (1971). The scene where the spoiled little girl grabs the gum and starts to chew. Easily the most famous inflatable fantasy scene ever committed to film! Look for the hose by her ankle – the tank is strategically hidden behind a crowd of onlookers.

Ancient Symbols of Fertility and Harvest

Female stone carvings of women with exaggerated sexual features are connected to several different archaeological discoveries of the Western world, one of them is Catalhoyuk (squiqqly C character, two dots over the O character, and two dots over the U character is how its properly written) it is the largest Neolithic settlement, and the world’s oldest settled city. The site is located in southern Anatolia in present day Turkey. The site dates back to 7500 BCE.

Although no remains of temples have been found, artifacts suggest that the religion of

Catalhoyuk Mother Goddess
Mother Goddess 7500 BCE

Catalhoyuk was rich in symbols. Distinctive baked clay figurines, long thought to represent the Mother Goddess, (similar to the Venus of Willendorf fertility) occupied wall niches and were placed in grain-storage bins, probably as a means of ritualistic protection from misfortune and insurance policy to protection of the harvest. These symbols seem to represent the complex mysteries surrounding birth (life, fertility, and harvest) and Death (loss of live, infertility, and feminine). They may have also been part of a fertility fetish or fertility rites in which a religious ceremony or other action is enacted when a woman becomes of age to conceive.

The Venus of Willendorf is much older than the seated woman statue found at Catalhoyuk. It was found in lower Austria, in the city of Willendorf, and dates back to the European Upper Paleolithic, or “Old Stone Age” at about of prehistory starting around 30,000 BCE. The statue is believed to have been carved between 24,000 – 22,000 BCE. In 2009 a reexamination of the stratigraphy at the site estimates the age of the archaeological layer in which the figure was found in situ at about 30,000 years before our time.

Many criticize and reject the the widely held view that these types of statues, women depicted with exaggerated sexual body parts represented an early fertility fetish, perhaps of motherhood or to a Mother Goddess, and cite the ironic identification of these figurines as ‘Venus figurines’ or ‘Mother Goddess’ as pleasantly satisfying certain assumptions about primitive tastes. I believe the myth that would be believed is that only civilized human are now capable of contency, temperance, and discipline.

In our time, these symbols often hold stereotypes about assumed behaviors, primitive unchecked appetites and deviant tastes and pleasures. Mainstream opinion about fat women can often involve feelings of repudiation and disgust. Often these symbols or images are used in scenarios aimed at humiliation which have become more a part of modern sexual fetishes like Big Beautiful Women Squashing, Fat Admires and Feeders, fantasies involving exaggerated body expansion and inflation using air compressors and rubber suits, and Dominance & Submissive sex play most often seen in bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism or BDSM.

Fat Admirers (FA) feel that fat women are the pinnacle of adult femininity, and see the general trend to sexualized young, anorexic fashion models as a form of latent pederasty. This would hold true since we live in a time era where many anorexic fashion models walked the runaway, and the industry is dominated by homosexual designers probably in possession of a Pygmalion complex. Theories on matricide and psychoanalytic theories on personality disorders and gender identity disorders such as homosexuality. There are also other disorders that explain the silencing of the female pregnant fertile body (aka: the Venus’ of archaeology) anorexia, abortion and birth control, hysterectomy, tubal ligation, and cosmetic plastic surgery. It is important to recognize balance and the importance between a healthy weight and non-healthy weight whether it be extremes of fat or extremes of starvation. It is also important to recognize that ancient civilizations did not have modern day medicine and healthcare practices or ritualized enactments of cutting into the flesh.

It is my opinion that the Venus of Willendorf figurine, because of its size, was probably some type of protection amulet. A symbol of fertility and fruitful bearings in one vein, and a protection amulet in another vein against infertility, loss, and death. Yet in another vein, a symbol of age and wisdom. The very symbols that brings forth life should ward off death and the very symbols of wisdom and fortitude should ward off ignorance and snap judgement.

Source Reference:

(1) Gates, Katherine. Deviant Desires: Incredibly strange sex. New York. Juno Books. (2000). pp. 95-105.

A Pygmalion Complex Reversal

What happened to me was similar to the psychoanalytic interpretation of a male’s pygmalion complex fantasy but in reversal. Instead of being fixed from my “broken castrated” existence as a female, I was tore down from being a confident, self-assured, vegetarian/vegan, work-out enthusiast who exercised regularly and frequently in caring for myself.

In bondage and discipline via electromagnetic frequency signals, I received the directed sadism of some one’s revenge fantasy of castration as a result of their paranoia about my sexuality. Instead of wanting to fix my perceived broken, bleeding castrated being as a female (as seen in a male’s pygmalion complex) they wanted to inflict the very opposite state which would starkly contrast a confident, self-assured, thinner, healthier me.

A certain level of self care is required in attending to one’s health and this was compromised through the use electromagnetic frequency signals via implants. It has been said that “sex is violence” and if this is so, then it follows that sex is also war. The simple nature of human competition allows for this. In acts of militarized modern warfare electromagnetic frequency weapons and focused directed energy weapons are the latest innovations. Anyone following the latest news coming from the Department of Defense and DARPA would know this. The latest innovations in advanced technology drives capital markets and promotes growth of capitalism. The adversity rooted in militarized weapons and new technologies is that they can also be used against Americans or used in criminal conspiracies.

My question is this, can a psychopathic predator introduce new tools to an already existing agent interested in furthering their own agenda and help further along affective violence? And the answer to that question is absolutely.

The nature of human development is so strongly rooted in the need for psychosexual growth it is hard not to understand why paranoia revolving around sexuality or sexual difference would be present in the human psyche.

In The Context of Assault: Examining New Methods of Coercive Control Through Electomagnetic Frequency Technology

Invisible Chains

Coming on the heels of my last post, I am providing some additional facts about the technology of coercive control through violent assault. Facts I feel are very important to my personal case study. It is also important to understand the enactments surrounding coercive control which, in my opinion, are nothing more than staged seductions in which the onlooker is deceived about what he or she may be viewing or experiencing. The use of traditional behavioral stereotypes are used in enactments with regard to their unconscious meaning. The script being played out in acts of coercive control in domestic violence cases is one where an elaborate seduction is taken place to distract the onlooker from the truth. In terms of the male batterer, it may involve his feelings of weakness and inferiority, lacking any kind of real control as a result of past childhood trauma.

The Typology of Abuse
Terms Defined

Conflicts = verbal disagreements between intimate partners or family members.
High Conflicts = loud aggressive shouting with anger as a result of heated disagreements between intimate partners or family members.
Fights = events where one or both partners use force to address situationally specific conflicts, neither is sufficiently fearful to seek outside assistance, both partners view the use of force as a legitimate (if not necessarily desirable) form of conflict resolution, and injury is very rare. (slapping, pushing, shoving)
Assaults = is the use of violent force by one partner against another in an attempt to hurt, injure or maintain control and order which maybe an attempt at subordination and subjugation of a subject involved in an intimate partner dispute or family conflict.
Coercive Control = coercion entails the use of force or threats to compel or dispel a particular response. In addition to causing immediate pain, injury, fear, or death, coercion can have long-term physical, behavioral, or psychological consequences.

The Contexts of Assaults

Assault is primarily deployed in two contexts: (1) to hurt or subjugate a partner who is formally independent and equal – the most common situation in liberal democratic societies – and (2) to reinforce cultural mores that dictate female subordination to their husbands. (commonly seen in patriarchal cultures and deep rooted religious cultural ethos)

Assault is the oppressive strategy of choice for men and women who suffer from medical, behavioral, or psychiatric problems; are part of a gang or criminal subculture; or who subsist in circumstances such as homelessness that make any sort of ongoing stable partnership difficult to maintain.

Assault is also common in same-sex relationships but it has a higher prevalence in heterosexual relationships most likely due to higher numbers found in the population. Female as well as male perpetrators of partner assault are often reenacting scripts implanted through sexual abuse or other childhood trauma or, like participants in fights, are trying to put themselves on a more equal footing with partners by “giving as good as they get.” These women can be as brutal, mean, and unforgiving as any man (pg 236).(1)

” “What is a perversion?” What distinguishes a perversion is its quality of desperation and fixity. A perversion is performed by a person who has no other choices, a person who would otherwise be overwhelmed by anxieties or depression or psychosis. The truth of what a perversion is, the crucial point, is that it maintains a perverse strategy. What makes a perversion a perversion a perversion is a mental strategy that uses one or another social stereotype of masculinity and femininity in a way that deceives the onlooker about the unconscious meaning of the behaviors she or he is observing. Were we to think about perversion solely in terms of manifest behaviors without going into the motives that give meaning to those behaviors, we could simply conclude that the male perversions are quests for forbidden sexual pleasure and nothing more. However, since deceptions is so crucial to perversion, unless we lay bare the lies that are hidden there we will be deceived at once. The perverse strategy works on us immediately by using popular and traditional definitions of perversion to distract us from the truth. (2)

Many men arrested for domestic violence already have substantial records of nonviolent as well as violent crime. Assaults committed in the criminal subculture appear to be less frequent but more injurious than the assaults committed as part of coercive control (*); victims as well as perpetrators are often using alcohol and/or drugs; jealousy or possessiveness (individual is seen as property) are common motives; and the couple’s relationship often forms, dissolves, and reforms over many years as counterpoint to other violent and nonviolent relationships in which both partners are involved. Importantly, though victims of assault often retain their autonomy. However, in any given case, partner assault can compromise a person’s autonomy, undermine their capacity to work or parent, and afford ready access to a victim’s resources. (1)

“the preoccupation in a perversion allows… to keep shame and anxiety unconscious. A vital ingredient is the ritual enactment which always includes at least a threat of torment, torture, punishment or suffering. This apprehension of suffering and even actual torment are tolerated, sometimes sought after, because with the spotlight on these unpleasant and painful feelings the pervert manages to keep at bay the terror and mortifications that were central aspects of his childhood traumas.” (2)

Where male, and even female, violence is concerned “many of these men and women had undoubtedly learned to fight in schools or neighborhoods where choosing not to respond when you are disrespected can cause violence to escalate with more serious consequences than if you fight and lose.” (1) In some cultural ethos where the male stereotypical myth put forth demands, “A man must “man up.” And where “manning-up” has to do with exerting force, or threat of force, to establish dominance has been spoken about in books like “The Will To Change” written by American author and social activist Bell Hooks. It is also important to consider the home environment where fights and assaults are considered acceptable modes of behavior in settling difference surrounding conflict. On the female side of this ethos may exist the stereotypical myth that good women are silent, chaste, and obedient to their male counterparts. Thus, novels like “The Stepford Wives” promote male domination over the female submissive through staged deceptions.
(*) I’d like to establish a connection between the sequelae effects of electrical injury and the use of coercive control in domestic violence situations. Where acts of coercive control are more frequent and less injurious, so are the side effects of electrical injury (electromagnetic frequency stimulation and arrest of an individual through this type of coercive control). That is, they result in lower mortality rates but are higher in long- and short-term side effects including high rates of morbidity. In previous posts I used a diagram of the distal effects of pollution. Thus, electromagnetic frequency has become a modern tool in which abusive males may coercively control their females, and too, might be considered a type of “pollution” in the environment of the female. Clouding judgement by distorting electrical signals during the thought process. Pollution makes people sick and sick people are less effective. One of the side-effects to breathing in pollution is lung disease. Likewise, long-term effects of electrical injury maybe morbidity which may include the onset of mental illness resulting from increased anxiety, increased risk of diabetes by thwarting physical activity, and the on-set of weight gain, which can be used as a way silencing female sexuality, thereby alleviate any anxiety another may feel about his or her victim’s sexuality. It may also reduce fears and anxiety in men who fear their partners might leave them for another man or might achieve more social prominence and recognition in social situations. The use of impression management and control has been observed in domestic partners with power and control issues. Since women in general are more critical of their image, it is no surprise that impression management is a high priority for some female psychopaths. Perhaps because of their “insidious” negative self-image, female psychopaths have a strong desire for attention, approval, and praise from others. Thus, attempts in controlling the behavior of other females may be deep rooted need in order to quell anxiety. Thus, controlling peoples perceptions is an element of my case study. Female psychopaths maybe more concerned with presenting a certain image to the public, carefully crafting stories which will promote maximum self-benefit for personal gain. These stories, which are nothing more than manipulations based in pathological lies (a staged seduction or reenactment of a script) with no supporting evidence to substantiate them are examples of how female psychopaths manipulate and victimize their targets. However, with the use of electromagnetic frequency, this aspect of Conning/Manipulation may be better managed by the psychopath staging a deception simply because electromagnetic frequency is invisible to the naked eye. The traits of Conning and Manipulation include prolific lying for maximum self benefit. That is, lies that are designed to bolster self image and defame others in attempt to manipulate perception; and the lack of remorse and callous lack of empathy for another. Since these may be two core traits that are more likely to be present in the female psychopath I can’t help but feel this information is important to my case analysis. With that said, it is important to also recognized men can also possess these traits but are more likely to use physical brute violence. In any event the need to further evaluate these new methods of coercive control by controlling partners must be examined to understand further how planning and the use of premeditation allows for this type of violence to persist.

(1) Stark, Evan. Coercive Control: The entrapment of women in personal life. New York. Oxford University Press. (2007)

(2) Kaplan, Louise J. Female Perversions: The temptations of madame bovary. New York. Doubleday. (1991).

The Sin Eaters and The Scarlet Letter


Yesterday while watching an episode of “The Story of God” with Morgan Freeman, I discovered a historical religious concept known as a sin-eater. A sin eater is a person who consumes a ritual meal in order to magically take on the sins of a person or household. The food was believed to absorb the sins of a recently deceased person, thus absolving the soul of the person. Sin-eaters, as a consequence, carried the sins of all people whose sins they had eaten. This practice, in my opinion, was more on the lines with Satanic worship than serving a religious purpose. The purpose of this ritual was two fold. One, the deceased person’s sins would be forgiven, thereby allowing his spirit the freedom of release from bondage to the Earthly realm. It was not only a way of absolving the dead of their sins, but it prevented the deceased spirit from roaming and haunting the Earth.

In some English traditions, the deceased would be laid out and a platter laid on the deceased body. Salt, bread, milk or beer would be placed on the platter. The bread would rest on the bed of salt and the milk or beer poured in to a gourd. And then the bread would be broken, eaten and consumed by the sin-eater, and then the milk or beer drank which would wash away the deceased person’s sins. Upon death, the sin eater would also be condemned to Hell for carrying the weight of all the deceased’s sins, making him already inherently evil. It was mostly poor people who had to chose this occupations out of necessity rather than choice as the sin eater would be paid for his service. This notion that the unforgiven sins of the dead would come back to haunt society as an image of evil. A ghostly phantom. Charles Munslow was one of the last sin eaters known to history, and after the death of his children, he agreed to become a sin eater. But was it really a noble choice? Perhaps Charles Munslow, out of a need for money, had no choice but to become a sin eater. Maybe Charles Munslow was guilty of something he had done that made him feel he had already been condemned to Hell or perhaps he carried a delusion of deserving eternal punishment. Perhaps it was the struggle within himself to do what is write in order to avoid a future wrong. Whatever the reason, this was a mythical belief based in the fear of mythical Hell, mythical evil and eternal damnation.

Most people know the story of the Scarlet Letter. A novel written by Nathaniel Hawthorne. In June 1642, in the Puritan town of Boston, a crowd gathers to witness an official punishment. A young woman, Hester Prynne, has been found guilty of adultery and must wear a scarlet A on her dress as a sign of shame. Furthermore, she must stand on the scaffold for three hours, exposed to public humiliation. As Hester approaches the scaffold, many of the women in the crowd are angered by her beauty and quiet dignity. When demanded and cajoled to name the father of her child, Hester refuses. Such are delusions bound up in mythical belief systems and punishments. Although adultery is not a criminal offense today, it could hold civil punishment in the way of divorce proceedings.

Combining these two concepts, I sometimes wonder about stories such as these where fantasy and delusion come together which ultimately play out in acts of violence toward fellow men. How many similar stories like them have played out, in not only the written historical archive, but in the personal lives of people we may never know. For instance, I know a man who had carried a severe sexually transmitted disease (STD) home to his wife. As a consequence to this man’s wanton penis, he was banned from her vaginal Paradise. She would no longer perform coitus with him and instead sentenced him to expulsion from their Heavenly bed. She told him that if he ever wanted to be with her again, he would only be allowed to perform oral sex on her for the remainder of his marriage, hence The Sin Eater. Eternal Damnation as the result of not keeping his passion checked by letting his phallus roam free, or as some would say, “walking your dog/pussy unleashed in the world.” The result of unchecked behavior of passion sparked by a charlatan’s “lie” also known as an act of adultery or an act of promiscuous prostitution by men and women not interested in becoming married. Hence, the evil fantasies bound up in the religious myth and image of “The Satan,” “Virgin Whores of Babylon,” “Dracula” and “Vampires.” Should we entertain such notions? Should we promote notions like “whore” “whore master” “pimp” “monster” as labels given to men or women who engage in acts that do not conform but deviate from sexual and social norms of society? Doesn’t everyone have some bad and some good in them? Shouldn’t the question be how much of both bad and good a person possess? Was it a one time mistake or does the person show a fixed repetition drive to commit such acts of antisocial, criminal, violent, and deviant behavior? Because it isn’t Satan, or The Devil. It’s a fixed repetition drive that is bound closely to personality formation and identity. How dangerous are they to the social stability of society? To be labeled evil, or the Devil requires acts of recidivism, repetition, uncontrolled and unconscionable behavior.

Women As Containers; Disorders of the Will; Man’s Search For The Devil; and Homosexuality

The image on the left is a depiction of the mythical god Pan. The image on the right is one of the earliest depictions of the Devil found in the Codex Gigas (The Devil’s Bible) written the early 13th century in the Benedictine monastery of Podlažice in Bohemia, which is a region in the modern-day Czech Republic.

“The will might be deranged even in many instances of person of sound understanding…..the will becoming the involuntary vehicle of vicious actions through the instrumentality of the passions. Persons thus diseased cannot speak the truth upon any subject….Their falsehood are seldom calculated to injure anybody but themselves.” ~Benjamin Rush (1812)

Like all people of the world, I was born into a family and marked by it. No one is immune to this fact. We all have to reconcile our grievances and learn how to forgive our parent’s for what they may or may not have been able to give us or even have been capable of giving us. In my family there are shared myth narratives not unlike the one’s found in mainstream thinking. These myth narratives are the result of bullying ideals and bullying attitudes when it comes to inter-subjective relations. Narratives that not only imply, but implicitly state, “If she’s dressed like that she’s a whore.” Or, “If she has promiscuous sexual encounters she deserved to be raped like the prostitute she is.” These myth narratives are based in the very prejudice, hate, and aversion to women’s sexuality. No one deserves to be raped. No one deserves to be beaten. And no one certainly deserves to be murdered for their actions by an arbitrary vigilante group or singular person. These types of attitudes and actions lack Courage, a core leadership skill in knowing how to lead people.

Women who are beautiful, have fine bodies, and dress to reveal the beauty of their own bodies are feared. They are feared because their sexuality is powerful. It holds sway over men who might not be able to say, “No.” And as a result, these women are blamed for the men’s lack of self restraint. Many times they are asked to be the containers for men’s unwanted feelings through acts of cruelty, hate, and physical violence. They are given labels like “whore,” “slut,” and “pig.”

Women with strong powerful sexuality are not only feared by men, but they are envied and even hated by other women. Other women who find themselves jealous and envious over their personal possessed attributes, may be due to the fact that these attributes are unattainable. As a result, rumors and gossip are spread about these hated women as a way to manipulate truth and generate hate against them in war mongering campaigns rooted in pure selfish, arrogance, and omnipotent behavior. This may lead to these hated women becoming social outcast within a group or social network. Just like an act of sexual assault by a male perpetrator or an act of wife battering, these hated women are socially attacked and asked to be the containers for other women’s unwanted feelings through acts of passive-aggressive violence, and sometimes physical violence. These actions are born out of bullying. These are not only bullying techniques but they are also the characteristics of sociopathic and psychopathic disorders of the will that include manipulation and lying.

These themes; manipulation, lies, spreading rumors, inciting fear and hate that will lead to war are repetitive and re-occuring themes throughout human history. While a lot has changed throughout our human archive, especially the technological tools man uses, a lot has not changed in the way man relates to others, and certainly not in the ways women are treated in the social order by men and each other. With today’s knowledge about psycopathic and sociopathic behaviors one might develop an argument that Jesus Christ may have been a psychopath or sociopath. First, he demonstrated behaviors that upset the established social norms of his culture by preaching religious philosophy that clearly deviated from the old testament laws for sanctity. He welcomed and took in prostitutes and violent criminals, forgiving them of their wrongs. There is also evidence that he my have been deceitful to his followers. This evidence comes down to us through ancient Gnostic texts and “secret sayings” written during the 1st century. Jesus would whisper a secret saying to one of his followers and then tell that follower he was never to utter the words Christ had just spoken to him. Making one wonder why would a religious leader such as Jesus not be open about his philosophies to everyone in his following? For example, in the Gnostic gospel of Judas, Jesus secretly tells Judas he is the most important of all his disciples because he is the one who is going to be the instigator bringing about Christ’s crucifixion in fulfillment of Bible prophecy. The book of Judas also states that it was Jesus who instructed Judas to hang himself so that Judas could join Jesus in Heaven, taking the rightful place Judas deserved. That sounds a little nuts, doesn’t it? But there is also evidence that he did the same thing to Mary Magdalene. He gave Mary “secret knowledge” or Gnosis others weren’t entitled to. The historical truth is that no one will ever truly know who Jesus was. All we have to go on are second source documents written by other people with varying perspective opinions and views.

In studying acts of antisocial, criminal, and violent behavior there were a couple of different styles of writing I had encountered. One style of writing about disorders of the will are broadly stated like when some one talks about bullying behavior. The other style of writing is specific, scientific, and clearly delineates the cataloging of various styles of behavior that constitute different psychopathic characteristics and traits. For example, there are clear attributes that all psychopaths possess. Character attributes such as; superficial charm, grandiose sense of self worth, need for stimulation through risk taking, pathological lying, a history of early behavioral problems (juvenile delinquency), failure to take responsibility for problems, shallow effect, anger management problems, lack of remorse when hurting others. However, with that said, a borderline personality disorder, like that of Andrew Cunanan who killed Gianni Versace, is considered a form of psychopathy, although it has different behavioral characteristics than say disasssociative personality disorder. But both personality disorders lie on the paranoid schizoid spectrum and are considered split. Both will disorders will have slightly different and varying character traits. However both possess some type of psychotic foreclosure with high levels of narcissism and both possess the possibility of criminal violence, in short murder. But here’s the thing, so can homosexuality except not all homosexuals commit violent acts of murder, or even crime. And isn’t anyone capable of violence if pushed to the farthest edges of their patience? Most myths are wrapped up in reasons based in religious and cultural norms that ultimately create mass hysteria against certain groups like homosexuals and promiscuous women. These groups are often represented as being abomination from the Devil and many of these myths still endure to this day. It is for this reason that when one studies psychopathy, personality disorders and homosexuality are studied in tandem. This is because abnormal and deviant inter-subjective object relations are closely tied to both of them.

In man’s historical search for the Devil (National Geographic’s “The Story of God” Season 3, Episode 1) man has created many different myths and images that give form to evil. In some historical readings gathered, the origins of “The Satan” mostly likely evolved out of citizens witnessing secret agents deployed by kings, bear false witness against innocent men. In ancient times, the Persian King Cyrus (around c. 560 BCE) deployed secret agents to roam about the territory in search of insurrection and sedition, anything that might lead to an outbreak of war, fights, and revolution. Ancient Egyptian kings deployed armies of men who came to be known as “talisman.” The Egyptian Eye of Horus represented these agents as the “all seeing eye.” In short, these men sought out any hostilities and threats to the peace and tranquility of the land. These secret agents were to be the king’s eyes and ears. This brings us to an understanding of men in all their strengths and weaknesses. It is very likely that some of these agents would have beared false witness and brought unsubstantiated claims against innocent men. In the mythical imaginary of the Hebrew Old Testament, we can begin to understand how “The Satan” began to take shape in mythology. In the mythical imaginary of the Hebrew tradition, the court of God was where God judged and “The Accuser” was appointed as a prosecuting attorney or “agent” of God. In this capacity, “the accuser” is responsible for bringing any threats to national security to the attention of God for judgement. Thus, it can be reasoned, the notion of “the Satan” lies in any nation’s secret national security agency that has been entrusted with the power to prosecute at will. In intimate social relationships, this “prosecuting accuser“ or “secret agent” has evolved to include all those who bear false truth against another with regard to human social relationships. Prostitutes are considered to be these same type of charlatans. It can be applied to any one who exploits, manipulates and lies against the truth of another. This rational is the reason why homosexuals, bisexual, transgender, and prostitutes (women) have been targeted with violence. They are considered the offspring of Satan as bearing false witness to a lie, by deceiving their true sexual identity. It is also why the throne of Satan was believed to be a place of Roman imperial cult worship because it was Roman authority who held abusive power. So the real Satan, in terms of this logical philosophical argument would have been Roman authority or any national established leadership that could be an arbitrary judge and jury through corrupt political leadership. The mythical image of the Devil has been traditionally depicted as half-man half-beast.

This begins my discussion on delusional myth making based in what some men perceive as “Idols of Perversity.”

*Note: Any reference in this post referring to men means men and women alike.

On Matricide by Amber Jacobs
The Diagnostic Statistical Manual for Mental Disease
Psychopathy: Antisocial, Criminal and Violent Behavior by various authors
The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout, PhD
The Gnostic Gospels by Elaine Pagels
Beyond Belief: The Secret Sayings of the Gospel of Thomas by Elaine Pagels
Lost Scriptures: Books that Did Not Make It into the New Testament by Bart D. Ehrman
The Lost Gospel of Judas Iscariot: A New Look At Betrayer and Betrayed by Bart D. Ehrman

How Hysteria Disappeared From Modern Psychiatry And The Unconcsious Process Of Reclaiming Lost Territory

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Orlan’s Art of Sex and Surgery. She says her work is a “struggle against the innate, the inexorable, the programmed, nature, DNA – and God.” She also believes it is important to underline her work as a feminist artist. “All my life I came second, as men were always coming first. Not to talk about feminism would mean that I didn’t respect myself.”

In the later part of the twentieth century hysteria was re-classified. “The American Diagnostic and Statistical Manuals (DSM) numbers II and III introduce the concept of ‘histrionic personality disorder’ to replace ‘hysteria.’ The substitution reflects the view that hysteria has many associations in its history which are now thought to be irrelevant and hence it should be erased. In fact, in both the literature and the practice, the terms hysterical and histrionic tend to be used somewhat interchangeably. Hysterical character traits change, however, so that, for instance, in DSM III, ‘immaturity’ and ‘seductiveness’ have been deleted and ‘superficiality’ added. Philip Slavney lists a constellation of traits – excessive displays of emotion, need for attention, unlikeability, insincerity and self-deception – which lead then to the simulation of other diseases. A person may behave hysterically; however, ‘hysteria’ does exist as a disease entity.”

Modalities of hysteria in responding to a ‘denouncement’ or a ‘rejection’ by another person, the individual can respond as thus to the ‘rebuffing / castration’:

“At this point, the young man can take conscious control of the situation and decide either to pursue or to relinquish his wish in full awareness of the prohibition or the realization of the wish. The difficulty in treating a hysterical symptom is that the wish and its prevention can also find an outlet in a different unconscious ‘choice’ of symptomatic expression. On an idea or wish becoming unconscious, its representation appears utterly changed, as in a dream. Unconscious processes are ordinary thoughts transformed into a different modality. What would be contradictory ideas in conscious life can coexist simultaneously in unconscious processes: there is no ‘no’; nothing can be negated ; one object/idea can stand in for many others or be displaced along a seemingly……..endless series of other manifestations. This is called ‘primary process thinking’ and is utterly distinct from conscious secondary process thought. It is ‘primary’ because, although conscious thought is ‘pushed back’ into it, its modality is earlier, ‘childish’, more ‘primitive’. Changing this unconscious thought back into conscious thought is a central task both of psychoanalytic clinical practice and the theory is a central task both of psychoanalytic clinical practice and the theory that results from it. The slippage from analysing Anna O’s hysterical symptoms to describing her personality, as Slavney does, is evidenced in his different usage of the term ‘unconscious’.”


Forbidden Fruit: in unconscious processes: there is no ‘no’; nothing can be negated ; one object/idea can stand in for many others or be displaced along a seemingly……..endless series of other manifestations.

In clinical practice, hysteria ceases to be an object for comprehension; it thus ceases to ‘exist’ as anything other than a mode of behavior. Having come to be used to describe the character of an individual, hysteria no longer exists beyond that person’s aberrant [deviant] behavior.

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Reading the silence of what was foreclosed upon and the patient’s unconscious fantasies in symbolic metaphor is the detective work of the psychoanalyst.

Forclosure of dialogue in which a person isn’t given freedom of expression to openly express their feelings and, thus, expression remains repressed (closed off), can result in modalities of serial behavior. Usually the unconscious foreclosure can be found in the description of a person’s life history. Reading the silence of what was foreclosed upon and the patient’s unconscious fantasies in symbolic metaphor is the detective work of the psychoanalyst. Asking the questions; What exactly was foreclosed upon? Was love denied? Was tenderness withheld? Was the mother’s wish that her son be a girl unconsciously transferred thereby creating his conscious transgender wish? What is the serial behavior, the repetition pattern? And what are its modalities? Thus, psychoanalysis had established itself by deciphering and comprehending the hysterical symptom. With the eradication of the symptom and its replacement by traits there is no process to understand, only something to be described by the observer or enacted by the sufferer.

In terms of psychoanalysis and feminism, I’ve learned posing the question of whether or not there exists an enactment of silencing the maternal body? I most often see this unconscious manifestation when I observe female body builders. I also witness maternal silencing in female lesbians who take on masculine character traits. I also witness Female body Buildersmaternal silencing in women who refuse motherhood and remain successful business entrepeneurs. Those who develop eating disorders such as anorexia, so too, render the maternal body silent in tragic metaphor. There are other perverse behaviors carried out by women, such as serial plastic surgery; self-mutilation by proxy. These enactments divulge the silent rejection of the maternal body; the silent rejection of mother’s perceived “weakness.” The weakness of maternal age. Feminists silently do this when they repudiate the female pregnant body for what it represents, which is the very oppression and weakness imposed upon them by men. But again, we have to ask the question, “What kind of danger or threat does the personality pose to the community at large?” Not all personality disorders are threats to the community.

It remains amazing to me the level of kleptomania found in many perversions of deviance. Kleptomania the re-enactment of taking back that which one rightfully deserves in order to manage individual stress and anxiety. It is for this reason, I believe, successful leadership lies in ‘open-door’ policy. The primary difference between the two ways with which men lead, spoken of by Nicollo Machiavelli. For he said, one way rightfully belongs to beast; the brut violence of foreclosure. Another way rightfully belongs to man; philosophical inquiry, discussion, and debate. One mode of leadership silences ‘voice’, and the other listens and allows ‘voice’ to be heard.

I preferred to use the word deviance here instead of mental illness because I believe that while deviance represents a branching off from the social mainstream of traditional behavior, all deviant behavior does not necessarily constitute as “mental illness.” Although some forms of deviance possess the risk of danger to the people within a community, some do not. Transvestism is a form of deviance that does not pose a threat to the community, and as such, some libraries around the country have embraced “Drag Queen Story Hour” in which real transvestites, in full drag, read stories to young children. It is a campaign to raise awareness about difference, and that individual difference isn’t something to be feared. Especially when that difference is sexually related with regard to transgender children.

In terms of individual life history and the development of personality in all its proclivities, each of us possess a unique portrait of visual art that represents us. That is to say, a visual representation expressed by a paintbrush with all its various shades and pallet hues. Each of us have led a unique life, and so, each of us possess our own unique portrait. Just as the subtle turn of a kaleidoscope produces a new vibrant image, so too do the varying character traits of personality.

The “Top” and “Bottom” Of A Sadomasochistic Twin Sibling Relationship; When A Family Squirrel Decides To Goes Nuts

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The 2nd Amendment & Gun Rights

The same phenomenon – Feminine masochism – is ascribed by Melanie Klein to infantile hatred for the mother and by Helle Thorning, a contemporary feminist psychologist, to desire to merge with the mother. According to Klein, when the little girl finds that the mother cannot satisfy all her desires, she turns away from the “bad” maternal breast – the symbol of libidinal frustration – and seeks a “good object” – the father – who will furnish her with the “object-oriented and narcissistic satisfactions she lacks.” Her second object, the father, will be idealized in proportion to the child’s disappointment in her first object – the mother.

PERSONAL COMMENT: Think for a moment how this penis envy coupled with castration anxiety develops in a same-sexed twin sibling relationship competing for the narcissistic satisfaction of their father’s penis. In a sadomasochistic scenario, one must be the “top” and the other must be the “bottom”. It the perfect scenario of the dominant and passive sadomasochistic outcome.

Because of this, the girl will have to repress and, in psychoanalytic jargon, “countercathect” the aggression which exists in her relation to the father: The anal-sadistic desire for the penis is thus changed into the typical passive-masochistic posture of the “feminine” woman. A number of themes are brought together in this account: penis envy, incestuous fantasy, the helplessness and dependency of the child, and the inhibition of infantile aggression. Thorning starts from the same premise, e.g., the child’s total dependency upon the maternal caregiver. But for her, feminine masochism, female passivity, and the fear of independent action in general represent and incomplete individuation from the mother, the failure to achieve an independent identity. The fantasy of the omnipotent caretaker of early childhood. This sampling of psychoanalytic theories of masochism should not obscure the fact that there are non-psychoanalytic theories as well. George Bataille has produced a neo-Hegelian theory of erotic violation, while Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir believe that masochism is a self-deceived hence futile effort to turn oneself into an object for another in order to escape the “anguish” of freedom and the frightening evanescence of consciousness.


Remember the case of P., a feminist female with masochistic fantasies? Indeed, what are we to make of it? Which account best explains that perverse alchemy at the heart of masochism – the transformation of pain into pleasure? Is it possible that the variety of things that go by the name of masochism are really multiple effects of multiple causes and that each theory captures something of what went on sometime, somewhere, in the psychosexual development of someone? To whom ought P. to turn for advice? What Sartre tells us in regard to the choice of a moral authority is true of the choice of a psychotherapeutic “expert” as well, namely, that the decision to whom to turn for advice is already a decision about what sort of advice we are prepared to take.

Let us suppose that P., determined to bring her desires into line with her ideology, embarks upon a course of traditional psychotherapy, and let us further suppose that her psychotherapy is unsuccessful. As part of her political education, P. is now exposed to a radical critique of psychotherapy: Psychotherapy is sexist; it is authoritarian and hierarchical; it is mired in the values of bourgeois society. P. now resolves to consult a “politically correct” therapist, indeed, a feminist therapist. In order to bring our discussion forward, let us suppose that this second attempt is unsuccessful too, for in spite of its popularity there is evidence that therapy fails as often as it succeeds, whatever the theoretical orientation of the therapist. P. is finding it no simple thing to change her desires. Ought she to try again? In a society with little cohesiveness and less confidence in its own survival, an obsessional preoccupation with self has come to replace more social needs and interests. For many people, there is no higher obligation than to the self – to get it “centered”, to realize its “potentialities,” to clear out its “hangups” — and little to life apart from a self-absorbed trek through the fads, cults, and therapies of our time. But how compatible is such a surrender to the “new narcissism” (the old “bourgeois individualism”) with a serious commitment to radical reform? Few but the relatively privileged can afford psychotherapy anyhow, and the search for what may well be an unrealizable ideal of mental health can absorb much of a person’s time, energy, and money. It is not at all clear that the politically correct course of action for P. is to continue in this way whatever the cost; perhaps she is better advised to direct her resources back toward the women’s movement. She is, after all, not psychologically disabled; within the oppressive realities of the contemporary world, her life is richer and more effective than the lives of many other people, and she is reconciled to her life – in every respect except one.

The view is widespread among radical feminists, especially among certain lesbian separatists, that female sexuality is malleable and diffuse and that a woman can, if she chooses, alter the structure of her desire.

PERSONAL COMMENT: It is my belief that it is this theory, the idea that female sexuality is diffuse and malleable that the onslaught of electro-magnetic frequency was used as a way of inducing unconscious neurotic wish fulfillment. Some sexual pervert who wanted to live out his voyeuristic stalking watching me engage in homosexual relationship and homosexual sex? I mean, why else do guys get-off on watching lesbian pornography? Stimulation of electro-magnetic frequency that induces opoid states of consciousness can stimulate creativity and dreams; in short unconscious wish fulfillment.

Here then is a new source of moral instruction for P., a source at the opposite pole from Samois. Without the help of any paid professional — for no such help is really needed — P. is now to pull herself up by her own psychological bootstraps.

The idea that we can alter our entire range of sexual feelings I shall call “sexual voluntarism.” Sexual voluntarism has two sources: first, the fact that for many women, thoroughgoing and unforeseen personal changes, including the rejection of heterosexuality for lesbian sexuality, have often accompanied the development of a feminist politics: second, a theory of sexuality that relies heavily on Skinnerian-style behaviorism. While it is a fact that many women (and even some men) have been able to effect profound personal transformations under the influence of feminist ideas, a theory of sexuality I believe to be both false and politically divisive has taken this fact as evidence for the practicability of a willed transformation of the self.

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Social Values Are Transmitted Through Social Learning

For the sexual voluntarist, individuals are thought to be blank tablets on which the culture inscribes certain patterns of behavior. Sexual norms are embedded in a variety of cultural forms, among them “common sense,” religion, the family, books, magazines, television, films, and popular music. Individuals are “positively reinforced,” e.g., rewarded, when they model their behavior on images and activities held out to them as normal and desirable, “negatively reinforced”, e.g. punished, when their modeling behavior is done incorrectly or not done at all.

“If we come to view male-dominated heterosexuality [the same as phallic ego states] as the only healthy form of sex, it is because we are bombarded with that model for our sexual fantasies long before we experience sex itself. Sexual images of conquest and submission pervade our imagination from an early age and determine how we will later look upon and experience sex.”

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Some Cultures May Find This Model Socially Unacceptable

The masters of patriarchal society make sure that the models set before us incorporate their needs and preferences: All other possibilities become unspeakable or obscene. Thus, the pervasiveness of propaganda for heterosexuality, for ordinary heterosexuality but for sadomasochism as well. Sadomasochists reveal to the world, albeit in an exaggerated form, the inner nature of heterosexuality and they are stigmatized by the larger society precisely because they tear the veil from what patriarchal respectability would like to hide. Sadomasochism is:

“A conditioned response to the sexual imagery that barrages women in this society. . . . . It is not surprising that women respond physically and emotionally to sadomasochistic images. Whether a woman identifies with the dominant or submissive figure in the fantasy, she is still responding to a model of sexual interaction that has been drummed into us throughout our lives.”

The language of these passages is graphic and leaves little doubt as to the theory of sexuality which is being put forward. Models of sexual relationship bombard us: they are drummed into our heads: the ideological apparatus of patriarchal society is said to condition the very structure of desire itself.

What is valuable in this view is the idea that sexuality is socially constructed. But are the voluntarists right about the mode of its construction? And those patterns of desire which may have been present in a person’s psyche from the virtual dawn of consciousness: Are voluntarists perhaps too sanguine about the prospects of radically altering these patterns in life? Writing in Signs, Ethel Spector Person denies the ability of theories like this to account for sexual deviance; why it is, for example, that fully 10 percent of the American population is said to be exclusively homosexual, in spite of incessant bombardment by propaganda for heterosexuality. Quite early in life, many people discover unusual sexual predilections which have been “modeled” for them by no one. “I thought I was the only one,” such people say, when they “come out,” enter psychoanalysis, or write their memoirs. Furthermore, deviance rarely goes unpunished: Punishments may range from a purely private embarrassment before the spectacle of one’s own fantasy life to electric shock, the stake, or the concentration camp. Indeed, the history of sexual deviance, insofar as this history is known to all, is the history of the failure of massive negative reinforcement to establish an absolute hegemony of the “normal.”

PERSONAL COMMENT: I side on the belief that patriarchal societies model the behavior they want the larger group to follow. This massive propaganda through religion, the family, books, magazines, television, films, and popular music is enough to support this theory. However, there are also demonstration of “normal” in the home environments that cling relatively close to perverse notions and ideals. Insensitive caregivers, domestic violence, and inattentive parents can all contribute to the masochism of the “new narcissism” we see proliferating in modern day society. Although this brief piece does not describe the rise of random acts of gun violence, which have become to be called M-S or, Murder-Suicides, the rise in narcissism which this article does attest to would support the side effects of violence; feminine masochism. The current thinking along these new postmodern social issues are that the advances in progress and the disassociation we receive by the use of new modern technology, (things are no longer made with our own hands, but with mass modern machinery, e.g. disposable commodities, which may contribute to the rise of “disposable life“. With the rise of modern medicine individuals fear less and less the onset of death or illness. In addition, with this rise of an “ideal” notion of how life is suppose to be lived, fast, easy, with monetary disposable things, comes the prospect of failure when traditional family values are not maintained and standards are not met. Not everyone fit’s the “ideal” notion of the “perfect life” with the “perfect house” and “the perfect job” and going to the “perfect idealized school” and when these notions and ideas become the unattainable what follows, what we witness, is what our modern society has observed as random acts of gun violence, both against the self and others.

Bartky, Sandra Lee. Femininity and Domination: Studies in the Phenomenology of Oppression. New York, Routledge (1990).